Post # 1
My BFF wants me to go with her and her boyfriend to look at rings because she wants my help (because I’m already engaged, I guess she thinks I have experience in buying rings?). I’m honored that she wants my advice, but I kind of feel awkward because I don’t know how I can help them, and I feel like this is something they should be doing together, as a couple.
She doesn’t really know what she wants… and I don’t know what their budget is, so I really don’t know how much I’ll be able to help.
How can I help her and her boyfriend shop for rings?
Post # 3
I would tell her that it’s an experience that she and her boyfriend should have together, alone. I would maybe just look through websites with her and help her find styles she likes. That way you are still involved but she has the real experience with her boyfriend.
Post # 4
Could you go with just her to see what she likes then her and her bf can go together to offically ring shop? Maybe then it wouldn’t be as awkward
Post # 5
@Birdee106: I kind of already agreed to it, because at the time I thought it was sweet of her to ask for my help. But then, almost immediately, I regretted it. I dunno what kind of help she wants. Does she think I can tell if the jewelers are trying to scam her? I have no idea. And their budget and stuff is their own business, I shouldn’t be there to hear that conversation. I dunno how to back out now that I’ve already agreed to help. 🙁
Post # 6
@prettyinpink11: She doesn’t really go anywhere without him. Both of them are absolutely clueless about this whole process, but I feel like they should go shopping around together and try rings on together. I just don’t know how much help I’ll be, if any at all.
Post # 7
I went looking with one of my friends but without FH when we were looking for my ring. Mainly because she wanted to look at rings too and her boyfriend isn’t ready to look, haha.
Post # 8
Tell her you thought about it and changed your mine! You think its a moment they should share together and you would feel like a 3rd wheel (or HE might end up feelingl ike the 3rd wheel!!). Offer to go shopping around town one day with her BEFORE she goes with him, so you guys can “re-con” and figure out some direction and that will make for a more productive trip when she goes with fiance. Just be excited with her and go ga-ga over rings with her- Im sure all she wants is a little time and attention and to hear your input on her big plans =)
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s that awkward, she probably just wants someone to get excited with her and provide good feedback. My fiance will tell me anything looks good, so I’m always happy to have someone around with a more discerning opinion.
Maybe you could suggest you two make it a girls afternoon? I did my ring shopping with my mom and sister, and then left my details with the jeweler. Then my fiance was able to go in and give them my name, and they showed him the rings I liked!
Post # 10
@AquaGrey8962: I don’t think it’s awkward at all, but if YOU feel weird doing it just tell her you can’t. Offer to look at pictures if she’s stuck.
I went shopping with my BFF’s FI without her because he wanted it to be a surprise but was totally clueless about what to get. It was kind of weird, but a good thing, cause she had made it VERY clear she wanted an emerald cut and the jeweler had all but convinced him a PRINCESS was “better”! Lazy jeweler just didn’t want to order something for him. It was a family friend who was giving him a deal, so he couldn’t just up & go somewhere else, I guess.