Post # 1
I have read tons of threads about jealousy when a sibling gets engaged, especially if their wedding will take place before yours, but I’m honestly not feeling any jealousy. Granted, it just happened 2 days ago and we haven’t gotten far into the planning stages, but I’m just excited. My relationship with my sister has been strained for a while, but now I finally feel like we are actually FRIENDS again.
Anybody else out there that it planning at the same time as a sibling? Are you having as much fun with it as we are?
Post # 3
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: My brother is getting engaged VERY soon. He waited to propose to his soon-to-be fiancee so he wouldn’t steal any thunder from our proposal. I don’t know when they will be planning their wedding for, my Future Sister-In-Law and I aren’t really that close. She’s sweet and I’m super happy for them, but we are VERY different types of brides! I think that helps as well, but I’m hoping to be as helpful to her as I can be! I think it’s fun to have so much family happiness all at once! 🙂
Post # 4
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: I’m glad you are excited about your sister getting married. I’m an only.
Post # 5
@cant.wait.to.be.mrs.d: Neither of my sisters (both younger) are engaged or married yet, but my best friend (who I’ve known for 23 of my 28 years) is married and now expecting a baby. We’ve always been friends, closer at some times than others, but I feel like my engagement has brought us so much closer again and I am **so** thankful for that!
Post # 6
I can only hope my cousin gets engaged soon! (Closest thing I have to a sister) She is older than me and she just really deserves the right guy. Her current SO started out being really good to her but quickly lost points with me. I want her to have the best! I would be ecstatic if she got engaged, ESPECIALLY if he proposes while they are in Hawaii for my wedding! I don’t understand the jealousy threads. These are weddings! They should be happy!!! =)
Post # 7
My sister and I are getting married about 4 months apart. 2 very different weddings, I’m doing the big golf course wedding you could say (approx 100 guests) in July and she is getting married on a beach in storm season end of February with immediate family only. I am excited for her as she is for me 🙂
Post # 8
My Future Sister-In-Law is getting married two-ish months after us. I’m pretty neutral. They got engaged four days after us after a ‘spontaneous’ trip to the same beach where my Fiance proposed. 🙁 I know it’s petty, but we felt like our thunder was stolen. If it had happened differently, I’d probably be happier for them.
Post # 9
My younger sister (we are a year apart) is engaged and is getting married about a month before me. Like yourself, our relationship was strained, but we have bonded over making plans. This is her 1st marriage, my second! He wedding is in NYC and VERY fancy! I am planning a simple backyard garden party wedding! When we needed a break from our own wedding planning we would swap focus! So much fun to have someone bounce ideas off of! No jealousy here! She’s been a big help to me!
Unfortunately, our mother and I are not on speaking terms and my sis is getting pressure from her not to invite me to the wedding. It makes me sad that I wont get to see her walk down the aisle and share in her special day! I know it will be a spectacular wedding! *smiling through the tears*
Post # 10
Yay! So excited for you both! You can plan your weddings together. I ythink it’s so nice that this is going to bring you two closer together. 🙂
Post # 11
@littlemissjellyfish: Hopefully your mother won’t convince her. :/
None of our siblings are getting married yet, but just wanted to say, this is pretty refreshing! I think some of the jealousy threads are off-kilter but others I actually agree with the poster, so I’m sure it’s a purely situational thing. Glad some people are in good situations though! Three of my siblings are pretty close in age and circumstance, I wouldn’t want any of them to feel badly or awkwardly in the future. 🙂
Post # 12
My brother is marrying about a month before me and I’m not excited abotu it. His Fiance is all about stealing my ideas. I wish he could have had it a few months earlier as it will also be a strain on many of our guests especially Out of Town guests.
Post # 13
@pinkdaisies: Our weddings are COMPLETELY different as well! She is having a huge church wedding with about 300 guests (she is marrying a minister) and I am having around 75 guests with the ceremony in a park and the reception in a converted cotton mill. Our tastes are really different which makes it a little bit easier to plan at the same time!
Post # 14
@littlemissjellyfish: I’m so sorry to hear that! I really hope that everything works out for you and you can be there for your sister. BTW I think that it is amazing that you aren’t allowing your problems with your mother to complicate the relationship with your sister. Those situations get really sticky really fast, and its really awesome that you and your sister can stay away from the mama drama!
Post # 15
My sister and I are actually getting married 6 weeks apart this summer. She got engaged 2 years ago, and didn’t do ANY wedding planning until I got engaged this past summer (a year and a half AFTER her).
I always knew my fiance and I would be getting married the summer after he was out of school. So, my planning began a long time ago! I have almost every detail worked out.
My sister, on the other hand, cried for a week when she first got engaged. She loves her fiance, but HATES change. So, it was a very emotional time for her. (Yet another proof that they should not be getting married…but that’s another story!) Anyway, like I said.. she didn’t do any wedding planning until I got engaged.
I think I ‘scared her into it’ with how prepared I was. Because of that, though, I constantly hear her comments “Your wedding is going to be so much better than mine” and “My wedding sucks”.. things like that.
It’s really tough! I try to help her when she asks for it, to encourage her to GET PLANNING! and I try to get her excited about getting married. But, when it boils down to it… she doesn’t have finances to pay for a wedding, so when we talk about her wedding, she stresses and huffs and puffs and storms off.
Anyway — this is ridiculously long.. (oops!), but I just wanted to share my story. We do get along really well. Luckily, our colours and styles are SO different. And our venues are so different. But, I hate that it makes her feel stressed. I feel guilty about how prepared I am.. but, honestly.. I’ve put SO much time and effort into this!
OK, now I’m done. I swear! 🙂