My biggest shower-related fear coming true?

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Do you like giving lingerie as shower gifts?
    Yes, because it's a nice gift for newlyweds : (10 votes)
    12 %
    Yes, because I like to see the bride squirm : (2 votes)
    2 %
    No, it's awkward : (36 votes)
    42 %
    No, I'd rather get her something off the registry : (37 votes)
    44 %
  • Post # 3
    141 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I also cringe when folks do that, and I can totally see myself getting mostly see through smalls!

    Post # 4
    1560 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @SarahCF:  Hi date twin!! I got zero pieces of lingerie at my shower, and I was greatful for that!!!  There was not a whole heck of a lot purchased of my registry, but a lot of ppl got me gifts cards to the store where my registry was at. Try not to worry and enjoy the day!


    Post # 5
    2571 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    OP, they could also be bringing money or gift cards… At my shower my gifts far outnumbered the guests so it was a lot of things individual people bought and I had some friends bring money since we were traveling and knew we wouldn’t have a ton of room in our car.

    I’d puke if anyone had mentioned that to me at my shower! LOL

    Post # 6
    22124 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I’ll give lingerie or a VS gift card for a bachelorette party, but definitely not for a shower! Doesn’t seem like the right time or place, unless it’s specifically a lingerie shower.

    Post # 7
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @SarahCF:  Lol I knew I couldn’t get away without a little embarrassment at my shower because my mom is a weirdo. Weird, but hilarious, so she gave me a bag full of naughty stuff like candy nipple tassels and panties, a book of sex games, and an elephant thong for DH. I opened this in front of his 90 year old grandma, and thank God she has a sense of humor and says, “What else is in that bag!”

    Sometimes it isn’t the BM’s fault or MOH’s fault. Some people just don’t know what is and is not apprpriate at showers vs bachelorette parties.

    Post # 8
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @SarahCF:  It’s ALWAYS older relatives/bosses that give lingerie! And tell horrifying stories.

    My grandmother-in-law told me a story about jacking my grandfather in law off in her sleep one night! And how it would have lead to sex, but her baby was 8 months, and they weren’t ready for another one yet!

    I can’t WAIT to do that to my grand-nieces/grandkids/great grandkids!

    Post # 9
    5935 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Oh lord, I’m having the same issue. Why do people think it’s ok to do this?

    I’ve had one of my friends flat out tell me she’s not getting me anything off the registry and it will be lingerie. Ughhh, I’m so annoyed by this. First off, I don’t like lingerie, I don’t wear it, my FI thinks it’s pointless and a waste of money. Secondly, my, somewhat conservative, family will be there. My 95 year old grandmother will be there! I really don’t want to pull out some see-through lace, butt floss in front of them. If you must insist on getting me that crap, at least give it to me after they’ve left. I told her I wouldn’t pull it out in front of them and she basically said “tough shit, I’ll make you”. Needless to say I’m pissed.

    Post # 10
    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE to see the bride squirm but I’m not so sure how I’ll be feeling when my time comes.

    Post # 11
    917 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I have never heard of giving sexy gifts at the bridal shower. What on earth?! That’s where I give cookbooks and mixing bowls, not strap-ons and handcuffs. 

    Granted, I’m skeeved out by giving my friends any sexual aids they have not requested, so I also hate the idea of giving lingere at the bachelorette party (and I certainly hope my friends know me well enough to not even try). 

    Post # 12
    1881 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    What? Is this real life?????? I have NEVER seen or heard of what you describe at a shower. That is strictly bachelorette party shenanigans! The shower is supposed to be prim and proper. If my grandmother or aunts talked about sexcy-time at my shower I would just die on the spot.

    Post # 13
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I’ve never actually been to a bridal shower. I wouldn’t give lingerie unless it was specifically a lingerie shower. 

    Post # 14
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    My mom buys that stuff for people’s showers all the time. I don’t see anything wrong with it. I’d be excited if someone got my lingerie for my shower and I’m sure some will!

    Post # 15
    1822 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    I got a lot of Victoria’s Secret XS stuff at my shower. Just because I’m short and of average build does not mean 32DDs and my size 9 hips can fit into a VS XS good grief have you seen how tiny those are??

    And yeah it was hella awkward that all these middle aged women were giving me lingerie and swimsuits. My BMs/peers? Kitchen/bathroom gifts. MIL? Teeny bikini. MIL’s best friend? Tiny nighty. MIL’s best friend’s daughter? Tiny tank top and tiny panties. Seriously you guys?? My own family sure MAYBE, but I don’t know yall very well and you are all well aware of how shy I am! *blush* 🙁

    Post # 16
    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I didnt get any lingerie at my shower… that was saved for my bachelorette.

    Maybe your guests will buy the gift today or tomorrow morning. I know a lot of people are last minute gifters.

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