Post # 1
I have a bridal shower this weekend that I’m really looking forward to. But I’m a littel scared of all the awkward sex talk with older relatives! I think sex is great, but I don’t want to talk about it around certain people.
One of my favorite but most fear-inducing stories is from one of my friends whose aunt got her a mattress pad for her shower, so that, in her old aunt’s words “every time you [graphic sexual gesture] you think of me.” Ew, no thank you. I also cringe whenever the bride has to hold up a sexy piece of lingerie. It’s very sexy and nice and all, but really, does she want everyone there thinking about her and her FI doing it?
I told my bridesmaids that I didn’t care what happened at the bachelorette, but to please keep the shower clean since we have older relatives and neighbors attending and I just find that so awkward. They have agreed. But I’m a little worried about gifts. I’m a registry stalker and I’ve noticed that even though 20+ people have RSVPd for the shower, only about 5 gifts have been bought off the registry. That means either people are not bringing gifts (that’s fine I suppose) or they are bringing gifts off the registry. That’s wonderful if they are getting some sweet sentimental gift, but I really fear they are getting me sexy lingerie! In front of everyone! Ack!
My FI told me that he had to actively discourage our BOSS from getting me lingerie for the shower already. So I wonder who else has lingerie plans who hasn’t been stopped.
Yikes, I’m gonna be red-faced the whole time! 😉
Post # 3
I also cringe when folks do that, and I can totally see myself getting mostly see through smalls!
Post # 4
@SarahCF: Hi date twin!! I got zero pieces of lingerie at my shower, and I was greatful for that!!! There was not a whole heck of a lot purchased of my registry, but a lot of ppl got me gifts cards to the store where my registry was at. Try not to worry and enjoy the day!
Post # 5
OP, they could also be bringing money or gift cards… At my shower my gifts far outnumbered the guests so it was a lot of things individual people bought and I had some friends bring money since we were traveling and knew we wouldn’t have a ton of room in our car.
I’d puke if anyone had mentioned that to me at my shower! LOL
Post # 6
I’ll give lingerie or a VS gift card for a bachelorette party, but definitely not for a shower! Doesn’t seem like the right time or place, unless it’s specifically a lingerie shower.
Post # 7
@SarahCF: Lol I knew I couldn’t get away without a little embarrassment at my shower because my mom is a weirdo. Weird, but hilarious, so she gave me a bag full of naughty stuff like candy nipple tassels and panties, a book of sex games, and an elephant thong for DH. I opened this in front of his 90 year old grandma, and thank God she has a sense of humor and says, “What else is in that bag!”
Sometimes it isn’t the BM’s fault or MOH’s fault. Some people just don’t know what is and is not apprpriate at showers vs bachelorette parties.
Post # 8
@SarahCF: It’s ALWAYS older relatives/bosses that give lingerie! And tell horrifying stories.
My grandmother-in-law told me a story about jacking my grandfather in law off in her sleep one night! And how it would have lead to sex, but her baby was 8 months, and they weren’t ready for another one yet!
I can’t WAIT to do that to my grand-nieces/grandkids/great grandkids!
Post # 9
Oh lord, I’m having the same issue. Why do people think it’s ok to do this?
I’ve had one of my friends flat out tell me she’s not getting me anything off the registry and it will be lingerie. Ughhh, I’m so annoyed by this. First off, I don’t like lingerie, I don’t wear it, my FI thinks it’s pointless and a waste of money. Secondly, my, somewhat conservative, family will be there. My 95 year old grandmother will be there! I really don’t want to pull out some see-through lace, butt floss in front of them. If you must insist on getting me that crap, at least give it to me after they’ve left. I told her I wouldn’t pull it out in front of them and she basically said “tough shit, I’ll make you”. Needless to say I’m pissed.
Post # 10
I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE to see the bride squirm but I’m not so sure how I’ll be feeling when my time comes.
Post # 11
I have never heard of giving sexy gifts at the bridal shower. What on earth?! That’s where I give cookbooks and mixing bowls, not strap-ons and handcuffs.
Granted, I’m skeeved out by giving my friends any sexual aids they have not requested, so I also hate the idea of giving lingere at the bachelorette party (and I certainly hope my friends know me well enough to not even try).
Post # 12
What? Is this real life?????? I have NEVER seen or heard of what you describe at a shower. That is strictly bachelorette party shenanigans! The shower is supposed to be prim and proper. If my grandmother or aunts talked about sexcy-time at my shower I would just die on the spot.
Post # 13
I’ve never actually been to a bridal shower. I wouldn’t give lingerie unless it was specifically a lingerie shower.
Post # 14
My mom buys that stuff for people’s showers all the time. I don’t see anything wrong with it. I’d be excited if someone got my lingerie for my shower and I’m sure some will!
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
I got a lot of Victoria’s Secret XS stuff at my shower. Just because I’m short and of average build does not mean 32DDs and my size 9 hips can fit into a VS XS good grief have you seen how tiny those are??
And yeah it was hella awkward that all these middle aged women were giving me lingerie and swimsuits. My BMs/peers? Kitchen/bathroom gifts. MIL? Teeny bikini. MIL’s best friend? Tiny nighty. MIL’s best friend’s daughter? Tiny tank top and tiny panties. Seriously you guys?? My own family sure MAYBE, but I don’t know yall very well and you are all well aware of how shy I am! *blush* 🙁
Post # 16
I didnt get any lingerie at my shower… that was saved for my bachelorette.
Maybe your guests will buy the gift today or tomorrow morning. I know a lot of people are last minute gifters.