- 2 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
So months ago when we ordered invitations I asked my venue coordinator what time the ceremony should start. He said the sun goes down at 5:36, so we should have a 5:30 ceremony time. I am dumb and thought nothing of it & went with what he said.
I recently had a meeting with my day-of coordinator and she expressed concerns about our ceremony time. Basically, we have about 15 minutes between 5:30 and 5:45 before it will be dark out. This is NOT how I want my ceremony. I don’t want guests to have to walk in the dark to the reception area inside, I do not want it slightly dark during vows, and I was completely against a first look and doing photos before the ceremony. (Again, how I did not realize this when he first suggested the time.. I don’t know. So fat, so dumb) Also just the stress of making sure the ceremony starts EXACTLY on time, or risking a completely dark ceremony.
So! My coordinator said we could totally bump the time up. It isn’t impossible. All my vendors are fine with it, the venue is fine with it. I can split up informing guests between my mom, my FI’s mom, and myself. We are expecting between 110 guests and 125. RSVPs are due next week.
So here are the options, what would you do:
Change the time from 5:30 to 5. Only asking guests to arrive 30 minutes earlier than previously told. This will give us more of a buffer & guarentee us the ceremony will not be done in the dark.
Change the time from 5:30 to 4. Asking guests to arrive an hour and a half earlier than previously told. This will allow us to NOT have to do the first look or take photos before hand- what I originally wanted. Guests will have a full months notice.
Not change the time at all.
I also am guessing change the time goes against some kind of etiquette rule..? I don’t care. All of my guests are extremely laid back, love and care for us, and I cannot imagine one guest being offended by it.
If I do end up changing the time- how concerned do you think I should be about guests REMEMBERING the time change? Would you send something out in the mail? Some kind of a reminder?
Thanks bees. Please be kind, I am majorly stressing 🙁