Post # 1
First let me tell you… I LOVE MY BIRTHDAY!! I have had a theme for the past few years and went to dinner with friends that accepted the invite, on my birthday, and other activities on other days for the past few years. Examples: 1) Last year’s theme was Spicy. I ate dinner at a restuarant called SAuces and went Salsa dancing. 2) The year before’s theme was Japanese. I ate dinner at a Hibachi restaurant and went on a ghost tour. Of course I dressed for each theme too.
The problem this year is that my birthday is the week before my Main Shower. Is it ok to ask people to go out to eat with me the week before alot of them will be attending my shower?
There is a concert, that I am sure that FI will take me to on my actual birthday. Should that be enough?
Post # 4
I think the concert should be enough. i know you love your birthday, but you’ll still be celebrating! The year I got married, I kept it low key for my birthday since we were trying to save every penny we could to help pay for the wedding. I say skip it this year and resume next year!
Post # 5
@2PeasinaPod: Ok. What if he doesn’t take me to the concert as I suspect? LOL We’re both turning 30 next year, so we can make it up then.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House
I usually keep my b-day low key, so I’m no help because it wouldn’t interfere really. But I would say they are 2 separate events. Unless people have to travel great distances for your bday, I don’t see how dinner and dancing one weekend and shower games in the afternoon the next would be too much, you know?
Post # 7
I honestly wouldn’t. I think that you should just celebrate with your FI. Maybe next year when the wedding festivities are over you can do something big again.
Post # 8
Hummmmm I’m getting mixed reviews here. 🙂
Post # 9
I say celebrate your birthday! I am one of those people who even if I can’t throw a big huge celebration I walk around treating myself to little things and badgering my FI into backrubs and making dinner or cleaning “because it’s my birthday!”
So maybe you can scale back on the celebration (either dinner at a decent but not expensive place, or a free or low cost event, but maybe not both), or throw a party at home where you can have your friends over but it won’t cost them anything. (I’m all for the theme and dressing up too!)
It’s like when people who are born near christmas never get a real birthday party because everyone just gives them presents on the holiday- it’s an out right shame!
Post # 10
I think it’s fine to love your birthday, but you are not 5. People may start to think you are a little too “it’s all about me” if you ask them to go to a birthday thing AND a shower. I would skip it this year. You only get married once (hopefully)!
Have a nice time with your FI where you aren’t focused on wedding stuff!
Post # 11
I agree you should skip the birthday party this year. You don’t want people to feel like they are getting burned out by constantly celebrating you.
Post # 12
i’d just do something with your fi. my fi and i moved cities around the same time as my shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties, and my fi wanted to have a goodbye party, and it just seemed like to much “us” time to have another big party so close together
Post # 13
Thanks everyone for your insight. I know I’m not 5, but I love my birthday just the same 🙂 I was thinking also that maybe FI has something planned since he’s so animate about me not doing anything. A girl can dream, right? 😉