(Closed) My Birthday is Close to My Shower Date – Celebrate Still or No?

posted 8 years ago in Holidays
Post # 4
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5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I think the concert should be enough. i know you love your birthday, but you’ll still be celebrating! The year I got married, I kept it low key for my birthday since we were trying to save every penny we could to help pay for the wedding. I say skip it this year and resume next year!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House

I usually keep my b-day low key, so I’m no help because it wouldn’t interfere really. But I would say they are 2 separate events. Unless people have to travel great distances for your bday, I don’t see how dinner and dancing one weekend and shower games in the afternoon the next would be too much, you know?

Post # 7
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5670 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I honestly wouldn’t. I think that you should just celebrate with your FI. Maybe next year when the wedding festivities are over you can do something big again.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I say celebrate your birthday! I am one of those people who even if I can’t throw a big huge celebration I walk around treating myself to little things and badgering my FI into backrubs and making dinner or cleaning “because it’s my birthday!”

So maybe you can scale back on the celebration (either dinner at a decent but not expensive place, or a free or low cost event, but maybe not both), or throw a party at home where you can have your friends over but it won’t cost them anything. (I’m all for the theme and dressing up too!)

It’s like when people who are born near christmas never get a real birthday party because everyone just gives them presents on the holiday- it’s an out right shame!

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it’s fine to love your birthday, but you are not 5. People may start to think you are a little too “it’s all about me” if you ask them to go to a birthday thing AND a shower. I would skip it this year. You only get married once (hopefully)!

Have a nice time with your FI where you aren’t focused on wedding stuff!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

I agree you should skip the birthday party this year.  You don’t want people to feel like they are getting burned out by constantly celebrating you.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i’d just do something with your fi. my fi and i moved cities around the same time as my shower and bachelor/bachelorette parties, and my fi wanted to have a goodbye party, and it just seemed like to much “us” time to have another big party so close together

 

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