My birthday is a week from today

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LadyBlackheart:  Haha – I know what you mean.  My husband is the worst at surprises – plus I share a bday with my dad and one of our good friends – my birthday was saturday.  I ended up having my entire family over to my house on Friday and made my own bday cake 🙂  Then Saturday night we went to a party for the family friend so it really didn’t feel like I had a big surprise – but just think – you get to spend the day with the person you love so in the end who planned it is not a big deal. 


I know super cheesy – but I am also looking forward to this Saturday when we will be going out with all my friends to celebrate MY bday – a week later:)  So what I am saying is maybe make you celebration on a different day so you can still feel like its special.


Post # 4
22125 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

Happy almost birthday! You should definitely get to do something to celebrate! My husband always makes me pick out what I want to do for my birthday. I always want him to help but he says it’s my birthday, my choice.

Has your SO asked you what you want to do? Maybe just tell him them that you’d love to be surprised? I don’t think that’s a crazy request.

Post # 5
2627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you dont tell them what you want, dont expect it of them

“Tell your SO”  Since we are celebrating my birthday this weekend I would like for you to make some special plans for us”  Simple as that. 

Set your expectations.

Post # 7
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@LadyBlackheart:  I would honestly just tell him. He can’t read your mind and he is being set up for failure if he has to meet expectations he doesn’t even know about. 

Post # 8
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@LadyBlackheart:  Here’s the biggest piece of advise I can give you:  You know what you want for him to do is ask him to do it.  You want him to take over planning out your birthday and he won’t know that’s what you want until you ask.  I am the super planner girlfriend, especially when it comes to our weekend activities and vacations so my FI doesn’t really think to take over planning since I do it so well.  He finally surprised me with a birthday trip this past year and I told him he won so many points with me because nobody had ever taken over planning and done something like that for me.  I loved it and he plans to do it more often.

“Hey babe, you know what I would really like for my birthday?  I would love it if you would plan out the day for us and I then I can just enjoy the day and not worry about all of the planning.”

Post # 9
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@beachbride1216:  +1

I love my DH, but he’s not an imaginative kind of guy. I’m a planner by nature (and a pretty fantastic gift giver) and have a hard time understanding people who aren’t. With him, I just have to be up front about it. I finally gave up having expectations like that of people.

This reminds me of the girl who posted here, upset because her new husband didn’t get her a wedding day gift. Tons of bees replied, asking if she had SAID anything to him about it…she hadn’t. I asked if he was psychic and, if not, how was he supposed to know about a relatively new (and possibly regional) tradition if she didn’t say anything to him about it? 

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