Post # 1
And since it falls on a Monday, SO and I are technically celebrating it this Saturday.
But so far, the activities we have planned (going to an apartment complex and applying for a place together then possibly going to a haunted house depending on the cost) are things we have been planning since way before my birthday.
So it doesn’t feel…birthday-related. Am I making sense?
And I kind of wish SO would take the reins and decide the activities. I want him to surprise me. I want him to plan the day out :/
I’m not asking or expecting anything expensive. Just a fun day that could be for my birthday.
I don’t know. I’m not sure if I’m overreacting. And if I’m not, I’m not sure how to broach the topic with him without sounding…spoiled, I guess? Like “Hey SO, can you plan Saturday out for me and surprise me for my birthday?” Ugh. It just sounds bad.
Post # 3
@LadyBlackheart: Haha – I know what you mean. My husband is the worst at surprises – plus I share a bday with my dad and one of our good friends – my birthday was saturday. I ended up having my entire family over to my house on Friday and made my own bday cake 🙂 Then Saturday night we went to a party for the family friend so it really didn’t feel like I had a big surprise – but just think – you get to spend the day with the person you love so in the end who planned it is not a big deal.
I know super cheesy – but I am also looking forward to this Saturday when we will be going out with all my friends to celebrate MY bday – a week later:) So what I am saying is maybe make you celebration on a different day so you can still feel like its special.
Post # 4
Happy almost birthday! You should definitely get to do something to celebrate! My husband always makes me pick out what I want to do for my birthday. I always want him to help but he says it’s my birthday, my choice.
Has your SO asked you what you want to do? Maybe just tell him them that you’d love to be surprised? I don’t think that’s a crazy request.
Post # 5
If you dont tell them what you want, dont expect it of them
“Tell your SO” Since we are celebrating my birthday this weekend I would like for you to make some special plans for us” Simple as that.
Set your expectations.
Post # 6
Well, I did it! I told him that I would like it if he planned something. He asked me if I had any ideas and I said, “Surprise me!”
So hopefully he will plan something :). Thanks ladies!
Post # 7
@LadyBlackheart: I would honestly just tell him. He can’t read your mind and he is being set up for failure if he has to meet expectations he doesn’t even know about.
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@LadyBlackheart: Here’s the biggest piece of advise I can give you: You know what you want for him to do is ask him to do it. You want him to take over planning out your birthday and he won’t know that’s what you want until you ask. I am the super planner girlfriend, especially when it comes to our weekend activities and vacations so my FI doesn’t really think to take over planning since I do it so well. He finally surprised me with a birthday trip this past year and I told him he won so many points with me because nobody had ever taken over planning and done something like that for me. I loved it and he plans to do it more often.
“Hey babe, you know what I would really like for my birthday? I would love it if you would plan out the day for us and I then I can just enjoy the day and not worry about all of the planning.”
Post # 9
I love my DH, but he’s not an imaginative kind of guy. I’m a planner by nature (and a pretty fantastic gift giver) and have a hard time understanding people who aren’t. With him, I just have to be up front about it. I finally gave up having expectations like that of people.
This reminds me of the girl who posted here, upset because her new husband didn’t get her a wedding day gift. Tons of bees replied, asking if she had SAID anything to him about it…she hadn’t. I asked if he was psychic and, if not, how was he supposed to know about a relatively new (and possibly regional) tradition if she didn’t say anything to him about it?