Post # 1
In the whole scheme of the world, this really isn’t the WORST thing ever. Today is my birthday and it’s been a pretty blah day.
SO told me this morning he was leaving work early because he wanted to get me a present. I don’t know why, but that just started the day off wrong. I mean, I know it’s the thought that counts and, obviously, he hasn’t put any thought into it. And why didn’t he go shopping over the weekend, or at least not tell me he hadn’t gone shopping yet?
None of my friends at work have told me happy birthday, and my own parents haven’t even called me! Even my 5 year-old told me she didn’t have to tell me happy birthday today because she told me yesterday. I told her yesterday wasn’t my birthday. Her reply, “But I already told you!”
I know SO has no dinner plans and I’ll be forced to decide what we eat. I think I’m just bummed because I’m always SO thoughtful for things like this and, yes, I know that everyone can’t always be as thoughtful as me but sometimes I just wish… I dunno…
Last year I threw a surprise birthday party for SO. The night before he worked and was coming home late, so the kids and I made cards, put up balloons and a present so that when he came home around midnight he would see it. This was on top of the surprise party, mind you, that I coordinated and paid for.
For my b-day last year, I had to plan EVERYTHING. He just showed up. Just once, I think it would be nice if he did something extra. I dunno…
Post # 3
Well it’s only 1:15 in my timezone, so there’s still time for everyone to wish you a happy birthday.
And just because your SO hasn’t bought your present yet, doesn’t mean he put no thought into it. I buy presents at the last minute a lot, but I usually know what I’m getting for the person ahead of time. He might already know and just has to go get it.
Post # 4
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! 🙂
I’m sorry your day isn’t going as awesome as you had hoped! Thats what sucks about getting older… birthday’s really aren’t as magical as they once were. In your boyfriends defense, most guys don’t plan & think like women do! I threw a huge b-day bash for my FI & he was pretty ho-hum about it. His idea of the perfect evening is pizza, beer, good tv & me. Woo. Hoo.
Post # 5
I’m sorry your day hasn’t been the greatest. I hope it ends on a much better note. It sounds like you definitely deserve a special day.
I’d tell your SO what it would mean to you to do something thoughtful… for next year. My FI had no idea how to make a birthday special until I gave him instructions.
Post # 6
Happy Birthday and sorry it’s been a bit of a let down.
I usually just take charge and start planning my own event and let my hub take over if he gets the will to do so. He is a great, thoughtful guy and I throw him a birthday party every year but he just is not good at reciprocating birthdays, donno why. It became obvious when we’d been dating a couple years and I planned a camping trip for the weekend with a bunch of friends for my birthday. We went out to dinner the night of my birthday and when the bill came he said he’d pay for my meal and I was like ‘oh don’t worry about it I was the one who wanted to go out for crabs’, instead of saying ‘oh but it’s your birthday’ he said ‘ok, great, thanks’ so I ended up paying for my meal and his meal on my birthday. I didn’t think about it at first and then was like WTF, he didn’t get me a gift and then had me take him out to dinner (he’s not strapped for cash). He’s usually very generous but birthday ettiquette just isn’t always on his radar.
Post # 7
I’m sorry your day isn’t going as great and hope it picks up!
Post # 8
Well, thank you for the birthday wishes! I hope the day gets better too!
Post # 9
I know how you feel. I usually have to plan everything too. My husband doesn’t really like birthdays so he doesn’t even want to celebrate his own birthday, let alone mine. It’s so tough.
Post # 10
Hope you have a wonderful birthday evening!!