Post # 1
My birthday is this sunday. It’s my last 20’s birthday as Ill be turning 29 this year. My best friend made an FB event for my bday this weekend even though we aren’t having a party. It’s mostly just to let people know we will be out and about this weekend and to come join if they can. I just went through and invited everyone who I would like to see this weekend (in an ideal world).
I realized while inviting everyone that there are quite a few of my friends that hate each other which makes things awkward for me during times like this. It’s like all my friends are sectioned off into groups and Im the only common link. So I feel like a big loser because when I do try and do something like this only a hand ful of people will come along with the people who get along with that crowd. Basically whoever responds first comes and then everyone else won’t because they don’t like who’s already going. I have only a handful of really close friends, but I socialize with a lot of people who I grew up with and who live in my neighborhood. They just all happen to come from conflicting groups. It’s like the adult version of high school. this is why I don’t do an actual party, because Im afraid not a lot of people will come and ill be a big loser! lol I was excited for my bday weekend…now im not.
Post # 3
If it makes you feel better I spent my 29th birthday last week mowing the lawn and cleaning my house for a party we were throwing for my inlaws that weekend. I didnt even get a birthday cake :/
Post # 4
I could care less about my birthday and my only celebration is going out for dinner with the fam. We do that on a regular basis anyway so it’s not like it’s “special.” I just don’t see the big deal…yay, you survived another year? I don’t get it.
I understand what you mean about the groups of friends though. We hang out with mostly couples and they are all from different times in our lives. None of them have met, which is weird I guess. We prefer small groups.
Post # 5
I spent my last birthday at a ski cabin with DH’s friends, whom I’m not really fond of and no one, not even DH wished me a happy birthday until about 11 pm, when I mentioned it was my BDay. Everyone just dismissively said, “oh yeah, Happy Birthday” and continued onto whatever they were doing.
It was kinda shitty, but really, in the grand scheme of life, after 21, none of your birthdays really matter anymore.
Post # 6
I never really celebrate my birthday anymore other than some drinks and dinner with my family, sometimes with close friends. It seems like if crappy, stupid drama is going to go down any day of the year, it’s usually on my birthday! So I avoid it altogether.
I would hope that your friends would be able to act in a mature manner for your sake on your birthday, but it doesn’t sound like that’s going to happen. Try to enjoy the day for what it is, and have fun with those who do show up to support you!
Post # 7
Birthdays are whatever now… And be glad you have at least a handful, some don’t have any at all. Don’t worry about how many people are going to show up; be thankful to those who do; even it it means just a “handful” will show up.
Post # 8
@stardustintheeyes: The good thing about your birthday, is that its going to be at a place (or places lol) that people can pop over and see you, wish you an awesome birthday, share a drink with you and float away to another area/conversation. Its a good idea that you avoided an official “party” because your avoiding trapping people in one set spot with other people that they hate.
Its like your having a party on a “common ground” for everyone and it doesn’t force anyone into an uncomfortable social situation with someone they dislike. If two people don’t get along, in a bar they can easily avoid eachother versus if the party was in a house, it would be a lot harder.
Even if not everyone shows up there will be a mix of “strangers” in the bar (or where ever you go) so don’t worry about looking like a loser. Just have fun!
Post # 9
@Bostongrl25: I have a feeling that Ill end up doing the same thing lol I always have grand plans of being a party animal…. and then I end up on my couch with some gardettos and wine. Alone. Or with FI playing candy crush next to me.
@MrsPanda99: I looooove my birthday! im an attention whore lol so a day all about me and celebrating me being born?! I say yes. a thousand times yes. But I just am terrible and getting people together in general. Im a good planner. Bad at bridging the gap between respective friend groups.
Post # 10
@stardustintheeyes: Really? My birthday makes me want to hide in a dark hole, lol. Honestly, for years now, we have been going out for dinner the day before my birthday to celebrate my last day being whatever age I am 😛 I have never understood the birthday fixation.
Post # 11
@metalbride: thats terrible! I would have a meltdown if FI forgot to make a big cheesy deal out of my birthday. He has been with me now for a decade (total) and he knows how much I love my bday. it’s like a day when no one is allowed to be mean to me in my family lol we all make big deals out of bdays. So I would have been so crushed if that happened to me :
@PermaStudent: oh they won’t fight or anything but I enjoy all of their company and it stinks when I can’t just hang out with everyone and have a good night just enjoying everyone’s company. I have to like split it up and make sure I spread myself around evenly.
@Artificial-Sweetener: Ill enjoy my close friends and family no matter what 🙂
@Stephville: This is exactly why I am doing what im doing. Im not going to put that pressure on anyone. I just want it to be a casual fun weekend. People can come visit and say hi or not but no one will be forced into an awkward encounter.
Post # 12
This was the first year in my adult life we attempted to have a birthday get together for me and ran into the same issues: people started being snarky to eachother on the fucking facebook invite, so I called it off.
Post # 13
@MrsPanda99: yes I adore my birthday. the cheesier the better. Oh you want me to wear a crowntiara? done! a big furry boa? yes, why not. a light up necklace that says im the birthday girl? ill take it. enough candles on my cake to burndown the city of chicago? lets do it! Last year my best friends got me a donkey pinata and filled it with condoms, glow sticks, candy, little shots of different liquor and then a justin beiber card with one of those little fold up fortune teller games… you know the kind you made with notebook paper in middle school to find out who you were gonna marry? it was awesome.
I think this year my friends are going with either hannah montana as the theme for my cards and stuff or it may be disney princesses. I don’t know. one of those lol. It always turns out hilarious.
Post # 14
@badabing88: omg I could see my friends doing this. they aren’t the most shy group of people lol. Im watching the invite closely to make sure no sneaky comments are thrown out there or anything.