My Birthday….. *sigh*

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Honey bee

If it makes you feel better I spent my 29th birthday last week mowing the lawn and cleaning my house for a party we were throwing for my inlaws that weekend. I didnt even get a birthday cake :/

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I could care less about my birthday and my only celebration is going out for dinner with the fam. We do that on a regular basis anyway so it’s not like it’s “special.” I just don’t see the big deal…yay, you survived another year? I don’t get it.

I understand what you mean about the groups of friends though. We hang out with mostly couples and they are all from different times in our lives. None of them have met, which is weird I guess. We prefer small groups.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I spent my last birthday at a ski cabin with DH’s friends, whom I’m not really fond of and no one, not even DH wished me a happy birthday until about 11 pm, when I mentioned it was my BDay. Everyone just dismissively said, “oh yeah, Happy Birthday” and continued onto whatever they were doing.

It was kinda shitty, but really, in the grand scheme of life, after 21, none of your birthdays really matter anymore.

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I never really celebrate my birthday anymore other than some drinks and dinner with my family, sometimes with close friends. It seems like if crappy, stupid drama is going to go down any day of the year, it’s usually on my birthday! So I avoid it altogether.

I would hope that your friends would be able to act in a mature manner for your sake on your birthday, but it doesn’t sound like that’s going to happen. Try to enjoy the day for what it is, and have fun with those who do show up to support you!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Birthdays are whatever now… And be glad you have at least a handful, some don’t have any at all. Don’t worry about how many people are going to show up; be thankful to those who do; even it it means just a “handful” will show up.

Happy Birthday!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@stardustintheeyes:  The good thing about your birthday, is that its going to be at a place (or places lol) that people can pop over and see you, wish you an awesome birthday, share a drink with you and float away to another area/conversation. Its a good idea that you avoided an official “party” because your avoiding trapping people in one set spot with other people that they hate.

Its like your having a party on a “common ground” for everyone and it doesn’t force anyone into an uncomfortable social situation with someone they dislike. If two people don’t get along, in a bar they can easily avoid eachother versus if the party was in a house, it would be a lot harder.

Even if not everyone shows up there will be a mix of “strangers” in the bar (or where ever you go) so don’t worry about looking like a loser. Just have fun!

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@stardustintheeyes:  Really? My birthday makes me want to hide in a dark hole, lol. Honestly, for years now, we have been going out for dinner the day before my birthday to celebrate my last day being whatever age I am 😛 I have never understood the birthday fixation.  

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

This was the first year in my adult life we attempted to have a birthday get together for me and ran into the same issues: people started being snarky to eachother on the fucking facebook invite, so I called it off.

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