Post # 1
He woke me up with a box.
Nicely wrapped in a beautiful ribbon. Okay, so not exactly the proposal I was looking for but hey, he’s actually asking me. Or is he…
Nope. Gorgeous diamond necklace. Totally my style and is a perfect present.
But not the ring. Well the rest of the day he kept pushing to do what I wanted and thanks to the rain we were unable to go hiking like we planned. Then I thought “maybe he is throwing me off the scent by giving me jewelry”. Followed by “crap, I’m one of those women now.”
It’s official, I’m crazy. He is never going to do it and he wants to get married next year.
Also, he hinted that there is an heirloom ring in the family. On my f**king birthday. I feel like he is trying to make me insane. Yes, he has a sense of humor like that. Maybe he’s waiting for the world to end, maybe he’s waiting for me to turn on him, maybe he’s waiting to see if my head explodes. I love this man, but he either needs to stop hinting and let me continue in my blissful ignorance or DO IT! Thanks for listening.
Post # 3
@Dr Pepper: Happy Birthday…congrats on the necklace and CHILL! Making yourself crazy is only going to make it worse..lol I was hinting and I still got surprised. 😉
Post # 3
Lol… My fiance “teased” me too for WEEKS before he proposed. I was beyond myself at the time, but waited it out, and it came. It was perfect. Yours will be too… and if hes hinting this hard, it will be soon! You have to love that he gave you an awesome necklace though… Good luck waiting!
Post # 4
@Dr Pepper: I laughed a little and I’m sorry. It’s amazing how men don’t realize what they are doing sometimes that just makes you crazy. Your rant was quite funny too. I hope it happens for you soon 🙂
Post # 5
HAPPY BIRTHDAY! He probably just wants to wait until it’s not a “special occasion” to ask you!
Post # 6
Maybe he was practicing???!?!?
Post # 7
@mwitter80: Don’t be sorry, I need to laugh at myself
As soon as I forget about the idea of getting engaged he’ll say: “We should get married on my birthday next year”, “I like fitted wedding dresses better” (than ballgown), “You deserve a ring that costs much more than $1000.” “We have an heirloom ring in my family” (as he stares at me for a reaction).
I’ve been sooo good and I don’t talk about it, mention it, pretend that I don’t care. Then he’ll say “I see us married in less than a year.” I reply “um, then can I start planning bc it takes a while to plan a wedding.” Him “I know.” I know he’s just trying to prep me, and I feel so guilty saying this, but SHUT UP! It’s getting hard to keep the crazy in (and I don’t want to scare the ring out of him.. lol)
Post # 8
When I saw the title, I immediately got excited for you!
But gosh, men are dumb sometimes.
I’m sorry that happened…but maybe the necklace will match the ring? And then you could wear them for the wedding? That’d be pretty sweet.
Hopefully it’s coming up SOON!
Post # 9
@Dr Pepper: I’ll tell you this just to make you feel better… LOL so last Xmas, we are at my Fiance parents for xmas eve.. & we are all just hanging out when my Fiance gets this big box and says open it infront of everyone!! I’m kind of shy, so I was like I will just wait. Then finally I start to open it, (with everyone watching) and it goes from a really BIG box to smaller, and smaller. I finally get to the smallest box…thinking in my head, this might be it, (the ring). It was a CAMERA! LOL he knew I wanted one, but I was like REALLY? LOL but i didn’t react badly, I just said Thank you so much!! LOL, and all he kept talking about that night was to his whole family was he is going to propose and everythin. So a month and half later… he did it!! : ) on Valentines Day!!! So i’m sure it’s comingg, but I know how your feeling!! LOL just thought I’d share lol
Post # 10
Can we at least see the necklace? Happy Birthday! What other holidays are coming up? Maybe he’s waiting for one of those? Or when you least expect it….?
Post # 11
Happy Birthday! Can we see necklace photos? Perhaps focus on the beautiful necklace he got you. I know the rest must be hard.
Post # 12
My birthday was last weekend, and he did propose… BUT, he told me afterwards that he toyed with the idea of waiting for another week to amp up the surprise factor. I told him it would have been hard to surprise me when he was cold and dead. 😛
Post # 13
Happy Birthday – at least the necklace sounds like a nice gift (maybe a I-got-cold-feet-at-the-jewelry-store-but-now-you-know-I’ve-been-in-one gift).
You guys might be so close to being engaged already to not need this, but since men can be clueless about how a woman’s heart can neat out of control in expectation upon being offered a box that is small, and most likely has jewelry in it, meaning we ALL seem to think at some point when getting a gift, “Is this IT?”, I’d like to share a rule a couple I know used to get through their 8 years before getting amrried:
NO small ring-sized boxes, at all, unless there is an proposal and an engagement ring involved. None. If he gets you jewelry, put it in something that will NOT look like it can hold a ring, even if he has to take earrings or a pendant out of the small box. This will avoid that wow it’s a nice gift, but my hopes just got sdashed, through no real fault of mine or yours feeling.
When my friend DID propose to my other friend, she saw the box and knew. It saved a lot of heartache and poorly received great gifts.
Post # 14
Happy Birthday! Sorry it wasn’t a ring but I’m sure the necklace is beautiful.
Have you ever told him how you do not appreciate him bringing up a wedding when you don’t even have a ring? Before we were engaged I told my now Darling Husband how hurt I got when he talked about the wedding and marriage when I didn’t even have a ring and it led to such false hope. Sometimes guys think they are funny but need to be told that they are not. I made a rule that until I had a ring on my finger I didn’t want to hear a single word about my ring (I designed my own ring but I had to wait for the propasal) or the wedding. He got the hint.
Post # 15
Oh Dr.Pepper, tread lightly. My SO did all these same things. Necklace (no kidding) talking/teasing/hinting about an engagement. Even saying things like “soon” and “just wait.”
That went on far longer than I could handle… and now I have “ruined” my proposal because I couldn’t stop digging at it, hinting at it and downright freaking out about it. Now, I know exactly when it is coming… within a 3 day range.
So hold it together. He’s going to do it. I can totally tell by the things you’ve said, but it could take him awhile. It’s been over 6 months since my SO started these things… I know if I would have kept quiet about it, stayed positive and happy and encouraging, it would have happened sooner.
Now it’s later, AND I know the exact time because I couldn’t just let it go. Please don’t make that mistake.