Post # 1
My BM have to pay the first $100 for their dresses, we are paying the rest. One of my BM have bought hers, but the other ones won’t!!!! I emailed them, since they don’t live here, and asked them to please get their dresses ordered, especially since 1 did. I understand that it is the holidays, and money is tight, but they have known that they will have too! One of my BM told me no becuase the wedding is still 9 months away!!!! What do I do?!?!
Post # 3
Do you think that the dresses will be discontinued before the wedding? If so, you should let them know that they have to buy them because the dresses might not be around much longer! Also, are you paying them back after they pay for the dresses? Maybe they don’t have the money to pay for your part of the dress right now?
Post # 4
I think with the holidays right around the corner, you are right and money probably is tight. Since the wedding is in September, they have plenty of time to order them. Can you ask them to have it ordered by the end of January? Most BM dresses take 3-4 months to come in so they will still have plenty of time to get alterations. I didnt order BM dresses for 2 weddings I was in until 5 months before the weddings. I put it off as much as I could because I just didnt have the money for them at the time.
Post # 5
They still have time and, if it were me, I wouldn’t want to order it around the holidays either. Why are you so insistent it be done RIGHT THIS SECOND? Where are you getting your dresses from?
Post # 6
I agree with the others. You might want to check with the store to see when they are getting discountined. Then I’d wait until Jan or February to say you need to have them ordered by this date. I’ve been in a wedding once where the bride had us buy our dresses a year in advance and then she changed her mind and we had to buy new dresses! You can’t return or exchange dresses at most places. So maybe cut them some slack for now or if you are that worried with it buy the dresses for them.
Post # 7
It’s true that finances are tighter around the holidays… also why do they need to order them now? What if they gain/lose weight, get pregant, etc? Find out how long it takes to order the dress (in our case it was 6 weeks), let the girls know and I promise you they will have it by your wedding. I only told my girls ONCE, told them about the 6 weeks and to allow time for alterations, and they all showed up wearing the dress on the wedding day without any drama whatsoever.
Post # 8
I wanted them to order them because I think that they are discontinuing them. They dropped the prices on the color I’m going with, making me think they are going to get rid of them. I asked them to do it by end of January, i thought that would be enough warning. I also told them that I could send them the money before they order, or I could order and then they could pay me back later.
Post # 9
Can you order them and then ask for reimbursement – say, in Jan/Feb?
Post # 10
I don’t know if you are ordering from David’s Bridal but I have heard that it’s common that they will tell people that they are discontinuing the dresses to try to get them to order right away. Months later the dresses are still there.
Post # 11
Unless you’ve amde a deal witht he store to buy them at a certain time or the dres will be discontinued, I think you’ve got some time with the purchase! Nine months out is quite a bit of time ahead for BM dresses.
Post # 12
I was over the moon with the dress from David’s Bridal, I bought and the service was great and not pressure filled like the other salons I visited.<br style=”padding: 0px; margin: 0px;” />To make a long story short, I received my dress 3 months after the expected date and on. The sales person said that the first dress made didn’t meet their quality standard and another had to be made. Needless to say, that was hard to believe and I think they probably forgot to even put in the order. I insisted that there be some type of compensation and what they were able to do for me was give me a 15% discount on their overpriced accessories, bleh. <br style=”padding: 0px; margin: 0px;” />When I picked up the dress, the sales girl was very pleasant and I was just happy that it was finally in my possession and I DIDN’T use their seamstress. Did not want to risk it.
Post # 13
I was having the same problem with my BMs. The place I was getting the dresses from recommended ordering them 5-6 months early, but because of the holidays I set a date roughly 6.5 months early. The last girls finally just ordered them this last week, thank goodness.
The place I’m working with was great and answered tons of questions for me. I would think where ever you are getting your dresses from would do the same. But, the women I spoke with said companies don’t always give warnings about discontining dresses. I would just try to talk with each BM and tell them that you’re getting a great deal on these dresses and that’s why you’re doing it so early.
I agree with oracle that if you really feel like you need them ordered soon, offer to help with the cost now and the can pick up the rest.