Post # 1
I have worked for a company for over five years now. I really like it here but sometimes I feel like my boss is purposely trying to intimidate me and my other coworkers. He’s young…I am 27 and I think he is 33 or 34. He talks to me and my female coworkers like we are stupid sometimes. But then other times, he is like the nicest person in the world. I don’t get it. I never know which person I am going to get each day and it’s exhausting. I can’t think of any examples of the things he says but I think it’s more of the way he says things rather than what he says. If you ask him a question, he will answer it like you’re an idiot. Sometimes I want to say, “Please talk to me in a nicer manner,” but I’m always afraid to. What should I do?
Post # 3
I don’t know that there is anything you can do necessarily that is going to completely solve your problem. Either you will have to nicely say that the way things are said sometimes comes off as intimidating or do nothing at all. I did this to a boss awhile back and he was completely shocked, had no idea he was coming off this way and it significantly improved our working relationship. Be careful though as this may not go over well. Good luck.
Post # 4
I’ve been in a similar situation but with a 70 year old! I started working for a guy whose assistant abruptly quit for another offer she was given. I don’t know if this guy thought I was dumb because of my age (early 30s though I look younger). But he would talk down to me like I was an idiot. I was annoyed but figured it was his age and old ways of thinking. About two weeks later, I was on the phone with a client and the 70 year old comes up to my ask wanting to ask me something. I signaled to him I was in the middle of a conversation that I couldn’t cut off and to just hold a sec. Well he got pissed off that I didn’t just cut this client off and said to me loudly, “you are just bullshitting on the phone!”. I couldn’t believe it, as I wasn’t just talking about the weather with the client ya know. The request he wanted was so unimportant, def something that could have waited.
After I got off the phone I went straight to his office and told him I would not tolerate him talking to me like that. If he wanted me to respect him, he would have to respect me too because I am not dealing with that treatment. Let’s just say he has changed his ways lol. This guy is very intimidating too but I couldn’t keep my mouth shut.