Post # 1
Bees, I am so frustrated here! Every single time my boss agrees to give me a day off here and there she has no problem with it at the time I ask, but then always forgets about it once the time has come and then starts freaking out because I won’t be in the office to help her. It has been happening more and more often and it really stresses me out because she then starts making it MY PROBLEM that she agreed to give me the day off and it seems like she starts resenting me and acting in a very passive aggressive manner. Ugh! It’s just so frustrating and makes me anxious. I have tomorrow and Friday off to go dress shopping with my Mom and sisters and then for our engagement party at FMIL’s, but I swear my boss has forgotten about it and is planning the rest of her week expecting me to be in the office. I am going to try to make it through the day without reminded her that I am off for the rest of the week. Then when I don’t show up tomorrow she can freak out and take it out on someone else. I think it is very unfair and unprofessional of her.
Anyone else ever deal with something like this???
Post # 3
is there some sort of availability calendar in the office? when i was a manager, once i had approved a time off request, it went into the calendar, and it was open for all employees to see and check.
other than that, perhaps you could (next time) shoot her an email a week beforehand saying, ‘i want to thank you for giving me x date off, i really appreciate it. i will aim to have y report on your desk before i go. thanks again’.
then you’re taking initiative, being proactive while still reminding her – and it’s on paper so she can’t say she forgot.
Post # 4
Girl my boss is the same way! I ask for my time off at least 2 weeks in advance, then remind him the week before, and again the day before, and it’s on our big calendar in the file room. Inevitably he will start calling the receptionist to find out where I am- like I never cleared it with him! Soo annoying! I started copying the receptionist on my e-mails asking for time off & reminders so that when he calls her she can say “oh, you ok’d her to take today off in your e-mail of ___” and then he usually apologizes and stops freaking out. I’d bring in someone else to witness it all if you can so then it’s not just your word vs. your boss’s word….
Post # 5
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@sillysillybee: My bosses are very last minute and forgetful as well. Other than the calendar idea like PP suggested I don’t have any advise other than to leave work at workr when she finally lets you walk out the door.
Post # 6
I’m dealing with the exact same thing with my boss. It’s stressful! I wish I had some advice for you but I don’t even know what to do myself.
I would just finish everything you have going on right now and leave at the end of the day like you’re supposed to. Maybe throw a quick “have a good weekend” and leave it at that.
Have fun dress shopping and at your engagement party!
Post # 7
Thanks for the suggestions ladies! So far it is 1:45 pm and she still seems to be under the impression that I will be in the office tomorrow and Friday…no way am I reminding her now unless she comes right out and asks. If I do she will be wanting me to work late tonight. Only about 2.5 hours left to go…
Post # 8
Yeah, is there somewhere that you can prove that she gave you those days off? It would suck for her to call you, freaking out, and then have you not be able to prove that she okayed it, you know? We have a time off request on our payroll/timeclock portal, and then when they days are approved, they’re written on a giant calendar.
Post # 9
@vorpalette: Yes I do have a copy of the vacation request form that she signed and so does our HR department. I don’t think she would ever accuse me of just blowing off work and acting like she never okayed it, but she just forgets about it and then when she is reminded of it she becomes passive aggressive and sulky because I won’t be here to wait on her hand and foot like every other day (I am her assistant so that is basically my job), and she complains even when someone is available to fill in because that person just isn’t me. If she didn’t leave every little thing to the last possible minute there would be no rush on any of it and I could get it all done before I take my time off, but that is a whole other story. UGH!!!!!
ETA: I am also not answering my phone tonight or tomorrow if she tries calling. I am her assistant, yes…but not her PERSONAL assistant.
Post # 10