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I just had to shout this to someone, and neither my mom or my fiance are answering their phones!
My boss (whom I am very close with and have worked with for 6 years) just came into my office and said that he and his wife, as their gift to me, would like to pay for the first $750 of my wedding dress! GAHHHHH!!!
He said he knows weddings are sacred, and if I wasn't interested, that was okay. But they'd rather do that than give me a pair of "stupid candlesticks or something."
I don't find this weird - my parents are contributing to our wedding but mostly the man and I are paying for it. I am super excited at what I think is a super kind gesture! Just wanted to share!
Do you think this is werid?
Ummm yes, I find it a little weird. And aside from that, I'm not even sure how ethical it is? I honestly wouldn't let anyone give me a $750 gift aside from my parents... It just wouldn't feel right.
WOW! I've got pretty darn cool bosses (lake house access, I pick my own hours, they shower me with bonuses and other perks throughout the year!) but this is amazing! Congrats!
Most people spend more time at work than home now-a-days, so having a boss that's closer to you than a friend or family member is pretty common.
No, I don't think it's any weirder than a relative paying for your dress. I've had bosses that I was close to and would think of them as close friends (but you know, we never really had problems because I did my work on time and didn't slack off) and I think their reasoning makes sense! That is awesome and congrats!
Oh I think it is a bit odd just because I don't have a clear understanding of the situation. If feel your heart of hearts you feel this is appropriate (based on your relationship with your boss) and whatnot then I think it's a LOVELY gesture! Very thoughtful and generous of them.
It's definitely not something you hear everyday...but since it's a gift from your boss AND his wife, you have worked for him for 6 years, and the gift is not lingerie....I say go for it.
But not before you check company policy. I know we can't accept gifts over a certain dollar amount but I don't know if that applies to weddings as well.
Wow, that is amazing! What a gift! eh, it is a little weird but I don't know your boss or job or anything so if it's cool to you then... sweet!
It doesn't sound weird to me....but I'd probably say no and then *I hope they'd insist* and say oh ok ^_^
I don't think it's that weird - FMIL is a very generous boss and is constantly doing nice things like that for her employees. I'm with you - accept it, and write a hell of a thank you note. :)
It's a little strange to me, yes, but then again I hate my boss and the one I had before her so, hell yeah - take the money! That's awesome.
I think it's a little weird b/c $750 is a lot of money but I don't know your boss or your situation! I agree, check the policies on that sort of stuff.
I think i'd feel kinda guilty accepting my boss' money though....versus a family member's.
It might be some kind of conflict of interest - like you could never report into a relative or your husband. But then again I am inviting both my boss's to my wedding, so I'm sure they will spend some money on a gift and it will probably be more than average. If you feel uncomfortable with $750, maybe accept some of it like $400. I would just feel weird b/c I would be afraid such a generous gift might lead towards higher expectations at the office. You know?
I can understand being very close to a boss- my sister's boss paid for their entire honeymoon when she got married! Just be grateful that you have such a wonderful person in your life :)
Take it and don't forget to invite them :) I think that a little background would probably help others to better understand your relationship, but from what I understand they are probably like parents or family and that is their contribution to your big day. As long as you feel comforable having them in your future lives I would say that accepting the gift is totally fine.
I don't think that it is weird at all!!! You have spent the last 6 years of your life with this person. Good work relationships are awesome!! I am closer to some people that I have worked with than I am with my actual family. Congrats to you! That is wonderful!!
That's awesome! My aunt and my older sister paid 50/50 on my wedding day. It's one of the best earliest presents I've ever gotten.
A little weird? Yeah. Too weird? Not if it fits with your relationship. If you feel comfortable (and it seems like you do), I think you are good to go. My mom had a boss that she was super close to (I'm inviting him to the wedding, my parents vacation with them), and he gave her really nice gifts. It all depends on the relationship. I would be sure to write him and his wife a long thank you, and give them a recognition at the wedding (boutineire (which I still can't spell) and corsage should work well).
Not really because some bosses have a relationship where they are like parents/siblings. I think it is very kind of him and his wife to offer that money to you.
That is so awesome of your boss!! Its a lot of money, but I don't think its too odd since you've worked with & seen your boss every day for the past 6 years. I think its extremely generous & completely fine, especially since its from him AND his wife. I've had amazing bosses as well, very generous & understanding so yea just enjoy being blessed by friends & family :).
my boss would never do that in a million years. so it seems odd to me, I'm not sure if I would take it. But then again, I've never been in that situation.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
I was so overwhelmed by his generosity. I of course refused at first and said that was too much, but he insisted it was what they'd like to do. I'm fortunate to be very close with his whole family, often babysitting and dog sitting for them and feel like family when in their home. And he is fortunate enough to be a financial position to make such an offer. Definitely an interesting situation I know I personally had never heard of! I am super appreciative (this wasn't the first time I've cried in front of him!).
That's a very generous and wonderful thing for your boss to do. I think it's a bit odd but I'm not that close to my boss, so something like that would never happen to me. But, it sounds like you are very close to his whole family so for your situation, it doesn't seem strange.
That's great! Just be careful to check corporate policies on gift giving - I guarantee word will get out about this so you don't want to get in any trouble. That is awesome though, $750 is a huge help I'm sure!
Your relationship with him sounds like a close one so I would accept the gift and write a thank you note as soon as you purchase it. It's a gift too great to pass up!
I think that's awesome. Maybe they've been through family weddings of their own recently and know how important the dress is to the bride. When my boss told me my bonus amount for this year, the first thing he said was "hope this will help with your wedding dress".
I think it's awesome. $750 is a lot of money to me... but if they are financially okay to do it, why not?
it is so weird... but i will definitely take the money... about ethics its depend... my i really dont care about ethics... so i will take the money and create a bog thanks for them
A little weird, but definitely worth the weird. :) Take it and be happy! And write them a heck of a thank you note, haha.
Is it unusual? Definitely. But as long as you're cool with it-- yay! My boss would totally do something like this. I think every relationship is different but I work in a tiny office with a very generous boss who treats me like his daughter. Yay for you!
Woohoo! That's awesome! Think of it as a wedding gift. My coworkers usually band together for a Bed Bath and Beyond gift card. I say this is better. My sisters are giving me a photographer that I love. I'm very appreciative of that!
I think that is so great! My FI is close to his boss and she and her husband are invited to our wedding. I don't know your relationship with your boss, but he seems to have enough of a relationship where he knows how special the wedding dress is to you.
I say your gratefully accept the gift and then make sure you let him and his wife know how thankful you are to him.
Its weird in the sense that it doesn't happen often (or maybe ever!) but I think that's so awesome! Congrats!
I had a boss once (an older woman) and I used to go back and forth between brown and blonde hair. She told me once when I asked that she prefered the blonde, and I was like, yea, but it's pricey to upkeep, etc. She wrote me a check for the cost of a full highlight and gave it to me. We had more than a boss/worker relationship- we genuinely liked each other.
I see your situation being like that. It's a lovely gift!!!!!!!
thats awesome! what a cool boss, wish mine is like that! my boss just keeps telling me i am to young to get married :/ sooooo annoying.
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