- 4 years ago
I posted last week about my boudoir shoot that was coming up over the weekend. I got some great support and input from so many bees that I wanted to share my experience as an update.
I’ve wanted to do a boudoir shoot even before I met FI, but could never justify the cost. When I saw that my wedding photographer (who I absolutely ADORE) also does boudoir photos, I figured I’d ask for a pricing quote. When she told me that I’d get a discount because I’m one of her brides, and that the price included professional hair and makeup, I was sold. The price was SO good – I could’ve paid that much just to get my hair and makeup done in a local salon, nevermind the photos.
So I went out and bought some new lingerie. Of course I’m trying to save money for the wedding, but I decided that once I used it for the shoot I’d just put it away for the honeymoon and kill two birds with one stone.
I showed up at my photographer’s location. She uses as in-home studio, or will shoot on location at hotels and such. Origially I’d wanted to use a hotel but decided to save myself the money, and I am very glad I did. Her studio was perfect and comfortable, and the lighting was exceptional.
The hair/makeup girl showed up and was so nice and easy to work with. She stayed through almost the entire shoot (which lasted about 4 hours, not counting the getting ready time), so that she could touch up my makeup and change up my hairstyle as needed.
I got changed into my first “outfit,” a pretty and innocent lace chemise, and was still feeling pretty nervous. Getting used to having the camera on me was strange, and I’m certainly no model, so I have my share of body hang-ups, most notably being my midsection. I shared that insecurity with my photographer and she told me not to worry about it, that I looked gorgeous but that if I didn’t like that area there are easy ways to camoflouge it or add a little extra coverage.
I felt silly at first, posing and giggling and staring seductively into the camera. But my photographer was so great, made me feel so at ease, that before I knew it, I pretty much forgot that I was half-naked. I got into the poses, the facial expressions started to feel more natural, and I actually started to feel beautiful. At one point my photog suggested we do a few topless shots – all of my bits were tastefully concealed/covered in the shots, but in order to take them, I did have to be in front of a camera with no top on. You’d think that would feel really strange, but my photographer was so easy going, and I just kept reminding myself that it’s no more than the girls in the ladies locker room have seen. Knowing that my photographer does this all the time really helped – I sort of compared it to the gynocologist. It’s nothing weird for them, it’s just their job. I’m sure I wouldn’t have been so comfortable with a male photographer, which is why I’d never consider doing a boudoir shoot with a male. Not to mention I’m sure my fiance will be much happier with the photos knowing that it wasn’t another man behind the camera, lol!
Anyway, we went through about 5 or 6 looks/outfits and the actual shoot lasted almost 4 hours. My photog was SO complimentary and kept telling me how great I looked, but I jut figured it’s what they tell you to boost your confidence and make you feel comfortable. But when she showed me the raw images on her digital camera, I couldn’t believe that I was looking at MYSELF. These were the untouched, raw images, and still I was in awe that I could ever look that good. With the lighting and strategic posing, they make you look absolutley stunning.
I will also say that I am suprised at how much WORK it actually is! Models deserve a lot more credit than they get. Posing for photos for hours is exhausting and physicaly demanding. I left there completely wiped, starving (even though she provided me with food!), and woke up seriously sore today! I’m in pretty decent shape and get to the gym a few times a week, but all that arching and butt tooching works muscles you don’t even know you have!
Now I am so excited to ge tthe photos back and to eventually show them to FI. It’s going to be so hard keeping it as a surprise until the wedding! If you’re questioning whether or not to do it, I absolutely recommend doing it, as long as you know and trust your photographer. It’s an awesome experience (and I say this without even seeing my final product). It was fun and empowering and something I will never forget. I’m so proud of myself for getting over my fears and insecurities and just going for it!