Post # 1
Okay, I know that my boyfriend is planning on proposing soon. He’s already asked my Dad (who told me) and he already showed the ring to his Mother (who told me) but I was still planning on being surprised when he finally asked. However, yesterday my boyfriend told me this…”Babe, I have the ring and I’ve wanted to propose to you all week but I don’t know how. Do you have any tips?”
I got irritated. Was I wrong? I told him that there are a lot of things I would help him with but that this should be all him. I don’t think I should have to tell him how to propose. I told him to look for tips online, try to be creative and that it doesn’t have to be an expensive proposal.
I feel a little bit cheated. I don’t think I should have to tell him how to propose! What do other people think? Is this normal?
Post # 3
I don’t think he should be asking for tips. He should be figuring it out on his own, even if it isn’t some big huge romantic expensive affair, at least put your own time into it!
Post # 4
My FI did something similar, I could tell he was getting really nervous and I told him that the most important thing was that it was heartfelt and that he thought about what he wanted to say to me. Cut him some slack, he’s probably just worried he won’t meet your expectattions
Post # 5
Whhhatt? Thats seems kinda silly to me he would ask you that! Of course you want to be surprised as much as possible since you obviously know he has the ring and the proposal is on the way! Maybe he is just nervous and wanted to throw you off his game.
But either way congrats on the impending engagement!!
Post # 6
Oh, poor guy, he’s probably worried about doing it “wrong!” I know my guy totally stressed about this. Obviously he shouldn’t have asked you, but he’s just clueless, haha. Tell him however he proposes, you’ll say yes and tell him not to worry about it. I did warn DH once not to propose too dramatically in public or anything, but only b/c that kind of stuff freaks me out. Maybe that’s what he was driving at?
Post # 7
Oh I would be annoyed, too, but maybe he is just really nervous. My FI and I talked about htis but like over 5 months before he proposed. Just tell him to make it heart felt
Post # 8
I think he was trying to see if there were any definite “no” proposals in your mind, and I think that’s very considerate. For instance, I would have loathed a public spectacle type proposal. R was smart enough to know that and double check with me beforehand.
Asking for tips doesn’t have to mean you tell him what to do. Just let him know you’ll love whatever he comes up with, and if you have any definite don’ts.
Post # 9
Send him here and have him read through some proposal stories. Maybe that will give him a little inspiration.
Post # 10
Thanks Gals! Just reading your posts put a different perspective on it. I’ll send him a link to a website on creative proposals!
Post # 11
that is so cute! he wants to give you what you want but doesn’t know how. that is so frickin sweet!!
mine just asked me one day at home and tossed me a ring. lol.
Post # 12
My FI did the same thing and I was pretty mad. I didn’t think it was fair that I should be the one doing the work on this one… Then I found out what a couple of his ideas had been and they were HORRIBLE, even by my relatively laid-back standards. So I suggested web sites for him to check out and told him which of our friends would be good people to turn to for help. It turned out great.
Good luck! (I feel your pain, though.)
Post # 13
I think he probably just wants it to be really special. I would tell him general things, like if you don’t want it to be in public, or if you must have your family there, or something like that. I told my FI I had only two requests, 1. no sporting events, 2. no long sweaty hikes (I wanted to look good!). 😉
Post # 14
I can understand why you’d feel a little irritated, I’d probably be a little annoyed too, but he probably had really good intentions. Just like girls have an engagement vision, so do the guys. I bet he just wants it to be as perfect as possible, maybe he’s checking to see if there’s anything that you need to complete your perfect proposal. I would say yes no matter what to a proposal from my boyfriend but it would be extra special if a) he got down on one knee and b) he didn’t do it by making a huge scene in the middle of a public place, I’m sort of shy haha.
Just let him know that you’ll say yes no matter what and anything that is really important to you. He probably just wants it to be everything you’ve ever wanted ( : Congratulations on your future engagement!
Post # 15
Even if he asked for tips, he didn’t tell you when it will be. And no matter what, it will be special coming from him. I can understand the frustration, but honestly, could it may be misdirected? Why did you Dad and FMIL decide to blah?!
Congrats on your future engagement. Let us know how he ends up proposing!
Post # 16
Thats horribly wrong that your father and your fmil would tell you!! plus your bf asking you!? not good.