Post # 1
I met my boyfriend over a year ago through a mutual friend. We went out for drinks and didn’t really hit it off at first, but something made me keep going out with him. After a few other dates he asked me if I chatted on gmail and we exchanged email addresses. Everyday when we got to work we would chat all day long. He was going to Law school in the fall and never really liked to talk about it. After a bunch of random encounters and dinners I was confused about what we were. When September came he finally came out and told me that he would be going to school 4 hours away. I was said about losing a great friend, yet so happy for him. After he left, about a week later I found flowers at my door. After Thanksgiving we declared ourselves official boyfriend/girlfriend. We did the long distance thing all year and survived. Now that he’s home for summer, things have been amazing.
Now that you have some background, he has asked me to move in with him in the state he attends school (4 hours away from me). When he asked I automatically said yes. We looked at apartments and fell in love with one in particular. Now, the hard part…signing the lease. After I heard we had gotten approved I freaked out. What if things don’t work out? I will be so far from my family and friends. (I’m leaving out many parts) My boyfriend is amazing. We have talked about marriage and probably will get married when he is done with school. I’m currently not very happy with my job and this would be a new opportunity for me as well. If anything goes wrong I could always come back home right? I mean after he graduates in 2 years he wants to move back from where we are from. Take a leap of faith?
Post # 3
Sometimes it’s best to just go with it and call it an adventure. Even if it doesn’t work out, you at least wont look back and think “what if!”
But, I would do your best to find a job down there or at least some volunteer work so you’re not stuck at home in an unfamiliar town.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
My Fiance and I had a very similar situation– we met in Nov ’06, and he was leaving for school in about a year. We started hanging out more and more frequently, and by Feb ’07 we made it “official” but we both kind of had this unofficial end date when he went off to school (neither of us thought the long distance thing could work). Then his plans got postponed by a semester due to scheduling, and by the time we’d been together for about 18 months, he asked me to go with him. I had to quit a job that I loved, move about 4 hours from everyone I’d ever known, and change my own educational path in order to make it happen, but I took the leap of faith. We lived in an apartment near the college for the first 6 months (which was really hard for me, I ended up depressed for a while due to having a really crappy job, and not adjusting well to the move), then we moved to his late grandfather’s property, which had been split 3 ways when the grandfather died; FI’s dad bought out 1 of the 3 people, so he owned 2/3 of the property; that was a lot better and I was able to move past a lot of my emotional issues. We lived there until we graduated; then moved back to the area we both grew up in, we rented for 6 months to save up a down payment; then bought our house together. Almost exactly a year after that, we are getting married– I’d say my leap of faith was worth it! I hope yours can be too!
Post # 5
I would totally go with the promise to my self that I would start today to search for a job so I am not putting my career on hold and just following him. I followed my now husband while he finished grad school but in case it didn’t work out made sure I was not going to regret him for ruining my career. I think it is really nice to take the leap of faith and agree with PP that calling it an adventure is a good outlook on such a situation. Good luck!
Post # 6
You only live once, if you want it and are sure about him go for it. If you have nothing to loose and it just turns out as some fun go for it. Don’t spend your life thinking what if? 🙂