Post # 1
It has been awhile since I’ve posted! I’m writing to share my most recent wedding experience – I was the maid of honor at my younger sister’s wedding.
Leading up to the wedding I was struggling to conceal feelings of envy/impatience about my own waiting…she is younger than me afterall! I have been with SO twice as long as she and her husband have been together…and I’ve known him fourteen times as long! Once the wedding came around though, I was truly happy for my sister and had a great time! I gave a kick-butt speech and even caught the bouquet!
It did amaze me though…all those cliche things that happen to unmarriend/unengaged older sisters at weddings in movies actually happened to me! In between toasts and bustling, I had a constant stream of, “When will you get married?”, or “Are you next?”, or even worse, “Isn’t it awkward that your younger sister is marrying before you?” from relatives. I think the open bar and my sense of humor allowed me to just laugh it off
Perhaps the silliest of all came from a Great Aunt in regards to my SO: “I met your friend over there,” and then the parting words of my Great Uncle, “You behave yourself!” in one of those kind-of-joking, but-I-really-mean-it tones.
C’est la vie. I had a great time though! I will probably have to wait quite some time for my turn, but that’s okay.
Your turn bees, any older sisters face awkwardness at their younger sibling’s wedding?
Post # 3
While I do have younger siblings, I have not been in that situation. Oddly enough, my SO’s younger brother got married a few years ago (before we met), and he expressed how awkward it was to be the unmarried older brother of the groom. He brought it up one of the first few times we talked about marriage, and he even asked if my brother or sister were expecting to be engaged any time soon. They weren’t but I told him that even if they were, I wouldn’t want to rush into being engaged/married just to do so before one of my siblings. 🙂
Post # 4
I will be in this exact same situation!!!! My younger sister of two years is getting married in a few months and I am Maid/Matron of Honor. We’re really close and I am so happy for her but I completely understand your natural feelings of envy – mine was particularly acute when we went wedding dress shopping, she looked stunning and I was real happy for her, but how I yearned to be the one trying the dresses on. I know I’ll get lots of comments at her wedding but hope to handle it as gracefully as you. I too have been with my SO other a lot longer than she has her Fiance, I only hope that we are at least engaged by the wedding, Credit to you for being such a cool older sister!
Post # 5
You really did handle that with grace. I probably would have gotten pissed and ended up crying or something (that’s how I roll, I’m super emotional). However, I am the older sister getting married first. My younger sister has actually been with her Boyfriend or Best Friend for nearly a year and a half or more than my fiance and I and I was starting to get really nervous that they’d get engaged/married before me and I didn’t think I could handle that. My sister has said however, that she’ll be pissed if they’re not engaged by the time I get married. He’s got just over 13 months to do it! lol
Post # 6
also… I was a flower girl 3 or 4 times and a bridesmaid 5 almost 6 times (I was supposed to be Maid/Matron of Honor for my former BFF but they called off the wedding) before I got engaged. Your time is coming, and it will be perfect! 🙂
Post # 7
Oh wow! I have family that is rather rude too, but I’m glad you caught the boquet, maybe SO will get to thinking a little harder.
But yes, I am the only one in my family who has not been married. My little sister is a second time around in the spring as to which I have no part in this time. She likes to flaunt it in my face but I am sometimes mostly happy with waiting for my man to ask. 🙂
First wedding though was a bit rough, had just broken up with a Boyfriend or Best Friend and had no date. I loved my co-workers who came to fend off the meddling family and I also gave a great speech. Ugh, but now its just awkward. 🙂
Post # 8
@Starshollow: I got “You’re next!!” constantly at my younger brothers wedding. All day and all night through the receiving line and reception. Normally I’d get mad but shrug it off pretty quick, but this night was different: J had just lost his job, and a wedding seemed SO FAR OFF. I enjoyed myself the best I could, but it was difficult. Don’t get me wrong, I was super happy for my brother and now sister in law, but man it was so tough knowing that my chances of getting married anytime soon were so far away, yet everyone thinks it’s just around the corner.
Post # 9
@GwenvonD: My BF’s grandmom has said “You’re next!” to us at the last 2 family weddings, and probably will again at his older sister’s wedding this fall :/ Its awkward b/c I know she means well, but I know she’s wrong and you just have to smile & get through it.
My family is worse than his, though. I’m an only child, but I’m the only cousin with a long-term SO. I can tell their itching for a wedding, and I’m so sick of the constant questions thrown at me at holiday parties that I’m looking for ways to SKIP them this year!