Post # 1
I recently had a boudoir shoot to be made into a photo book for my h2bs wedding morning pressie (part of it anyway…).
Anyway so I am so pleased with my pics and sent the link to my bridesmaids. 1 replies instantly with loads of messages saying how great , hot I looked and my h2b will love them etc. the other one wrote back on the email thread and sent my texts to me to say how ‘funny’ and ‘hilarious’ it/the pictures were?! I’m not exactly over the moon at this and without me even saying a thing, the other bridesmaid also said were ’ weird comments’. She is a bit prudish but still, if you can’t say anything don’t say it?! The last reaction I’d want these to have would be to be “funny”, so again I’m feeling hurt by her comments.
She has been a bit ill with a stress fatigue type illness this has meant she’s hardly been involved in anything and turned down to chances to come to my dress fitting with me, so I’ve never had a bridesmaid with me in any of my dress shopping. Once she said she had to rest up to prepare for a date that evening, again felt a bit let down that that got the priority. When I ask re. dates she can do I get full on info about the state she’s in/ dates and times that work best for her, never really putting me first and thinking, maybe for once Ill not go into it and just make the time- whatever!
The weddings 2 months away now and to get more silly/sarcastic comments when she’s hardly been involved in anything wedding related is like I’m ready to write an email explaining how I feel, what do you think?
Post # 3
Personally?? I think she sounds like a bitch and is jealous as all hell.
Some one unsupportive like this is not the best person to stand with you on your wedding day.
(I had bridesmaid issues of my own when I got married, and trust me, if I could go back I would have kicked this one woman to the curb.)
Post # 4
Its a shame as we go back a long way and I know her hearts in the right place but she can be very self centered and I bet doesn’t realise this is how she comes across at all.
Its just a weird reaction and she didnt need to keep repeating the fact she found the pics so funny! It was a kick in the stomach and really hurt followed by another message when I just asked if she was free on a certain date about what suits her re timings/day/location…
I might send an email as have to get this out before the wedding…what was up with your Bridesmaid or Best Man (S)?
Post # 5
There is nothing funny about boudoir pics, I bet they were stunning!
My Bridesmaid or Best Man ( not my maid of honor, who ROCKED my world, and is awesome)
1) Continually tried to style me the way she wanted for the wedding, (NO YOU CANNOT WEAR THAT!!!)
2) Kept talking about how ‘hot’ she was going to look.
3) Stated that if she was a size 14 (12 american) she would kill herself, (when dress shopping with me, a size 12, nd Maid/Matron of Honor a size 18)…
4) Got drunk and sang kareoke at my wedding without consulting me.
5) Lapdanced my uncle in front of his wife,
6)and then lastly slept with my brother as she knew it would piss me off.
Suffice to say we don’t speak now. She was an embarrasment to herself. It was still the best day of my life- I married a great man and ditched a friend that was an enemy in disguise!!
With your Bridesmaid or Best Man tell her about your fears and concerns, if she does not appear to validate them or listen maybe you do need to cut her, if she takes it on board you have a platform to work from.
Hugs, I know how stressful planning can be! T