My bridesmaid just got a giant shoulder tattoo 3 months before the wedding…

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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636 posts
Busy bee

It’s not your body, so it’s not something you have any right to dictate. Let it go. I can’t believe someone would get peeved about this, seems like such a non-issue IMO.

 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsBPhD:  I think you’re about to get a loooot of responses saying it’s her body, her choice, you can’t control her, she isn’t a prop for your photographs etc. But I get where you are coming from and as someone who does not like visible large tattoos I wouldn’t be thrilled either. I don’t think you should ‘confront’ her though.  Perhaps she could wear a matching bolero jacket or something for the ceremony?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

my opinion: Don’t confront her. It’s too late now and it will only cause tension. It’s just one of those things you’ll have to let go and accept. Don’t change the dresses etiher. Unless it’s vulgar and needs to be covered I say let it go. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You could always ask her if she would be insulted if you had the photog photoshop it out, for the sake of uniformity. 

Post # 7
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830 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsBPhD:  3 months before the wedding? Cool. Plenty of time to heal.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@MrsBPhD: What good would confronting her do? It’s permanent. And really…you want to change everyone’s dress 3 months out over a tattoo??!!

Personally I wouldn’t have an issue with it in the slightest.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You must not have any tat’s.  That being said yes it is your wedding but it is her body. Unless you are going to purchase all the girls boderos you can’t say a whole lot about without sounding very pushy bridezilla.  

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think if its going to bother you buy the girls all some pashminas that match their dresses and have EVERYONE wear one and don’t say a word to her that its about her tattoo. She can wear it for the ceremony/pictures and then does it matter if her tattoo shows during dancing? I feel like I understand what you are saying when you say you get she gets to do what she wants but you wish she would have waited. The truth is to her it probably seems really far off still and she just didn’t really think about it so I would try not to let it bother you towards her. 

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

As long is it’s not a friggin’ swastika or something blatantly offensive, I wouldn’t worry about it. It’s her body, and she can ink it how she wants. In my opinion, it’s not worth a potential argument. I would let it go, dude. You can’t be in control of what other people do with their bodies. You CAN be in control of continuing to be an awesome friend and standing by your bridesmaid.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MrsBPhD:  oy. Your gonna get a lotta crap for this one… You cannot say a word about it, and it is silly to go through the trouble of finding new dresses for this reasoning. It’s her choice to get a huge tattoo right before your wedding…someone’s life choices shouldn’t be compromised by their being in a friends wedding. Let it go. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Unless it’s a tattoo of a dick or something offensive, then who cares? She’ll probably look awesome.

Post # 77
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Buzzing bee

MrsBPhD:  

Sorry to be blatantly honest yes maybe she should have thought about telling you, but your are not her mom you are her friend she doesn’t have to discuss her daily dealings with you. If you care about her enough to be in your bridal party who cares (unless like someone said its vulgar which I feel like is not the situation). Also you know tattoo make-up is a thing and if you approach her with a positive attitude, mentioning your conservative relatives, she would probably cover it up.

http://www.tattoocamo.com/

 

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