- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
This is long…I’m sorry
Lately, I’ve been really bummed about my choice in bridesmaids. I have 6 and I chose to go with all family members for a few reasons. Mostly, they’re some of the most important people in the world to me and also because I wanted to avoid friend drama. Now, they’re starting to become the biggest nuisance. This is probably really disrespectful, but I’m gonna number them for the sake of avoiding using their names.
When I told them where they could get their dresses made, maids 1, 3, 4 and 5 complained or wanted something different and 6 had just quit her job (6 is a single mom with a 4 y/o) so I knew she wouldn’t be able to afford the dress even though it was gonna be less than $150. I actually found someone who would make dresses for a decent price and showed each girl a few dresses to choose from and let them pick the one that they liked best so they would each have a different dress and something that they felt good about wearing. They just complained about where I wanted it made for some reason. Mainly they said because it wasn’t local to them. Now, I was in their weddings and had to get measured where I live and call their dress people with my measurements…it wasn’t hard, but for some reason, it is unimaginable to do for me. I finally gave in and decided they could get any dress they want from anywhere as long as it was above the knees and dark grey. THEN 3 and 4 told me how dumb that was because the dresses wouldn’t be the same color. Well, the only ones without a dress now are 4 and 6. 6 just found out she’s preggo so she’s still looking, which is fine. I’m not worried about her…like I said, I don’t care where they get a dress. Seriously, 3 got hers at Burlington Coat Factory for $50! But now, 4 wants her dress made by the original lady I found and STILL hasn’t gotten her measurements done!!! What’s worse, is she’s recently relocated and know the original dress maker lives 5 minutes from her, not 5 hours! Just frustrated and venting I guess
4 offered to throw me a bridal shower (I’m having 2) and since she’s going through a lot of life changes right now decided she wasn’t going to anymore. She didn’t even bother to tell me, she told my mom. I understand what she’s got going on and I really don’t mind, but to make a commitment then back out without even telling me was a little hurtful. Now, 4 has done a lot for me (they all have!!!) but last summer her house got robbed and she blamed it on me. Told the cops and the whole family….came to my job to tell me she knew it was me. I was so hurt and upset, but I had a key and her reasoning made sense. So while it really hurt that she felt that way, I couldn’t blame her because her reasons for believing so were justified. BUT….. while another cousin and I were helping her pack up her house when she wasn’t there, we found a box that had a bunch of stuff she claimed I had stolen from her with the exception of a camera (that we saw sitting on her bed), wii (that was plugged up in the living room) and a ring (found on her husband’s night stand). I was so hurt. There are no words to explain how I feel about it. I even got a copy of the police report to double check serial numbers. 4 has been taking advantage of me A LOT lately and has really lost her grip. I’m so sad and angry, I never want to speak to her again, but I can’t seem to bring myself to confront her and I still drop everything I have going on the second she has an ’emergency’ (this is pretty much on a daily basis). I don’t even know what to do.
3 offered to throw my bachelorette party. I’m not really looking forward to it because it’s a spa weekend in Napa. I hate spa days! But maid 6 is pregnant and 1 and 2 are only 17. I wanted to do something that EVERYONE could participate in especially since 1 is my sister and Maid/Matron of Honor and 2 is my Future Sister-In-Law. But I guess I was just hoping for something a little more me. She’s soooo excited about it and I’ve tried to hint that I’m not really into it, but that’s not getting me anywhere. And I think it’s too much money. The last thing I want to do a week before my wedding is spend hundreds of dollars in Napa…I have glasses and plates to rent! Again, just venting. I’m just bummed about it, I guess. I feel like I’m missing out.
3 and 5 are no longer speaking to 4 (4 is just drama and crisis…all.the.time.). In addition, 3 and 5 are no longer speaking. 5 did something for both she and 3 to enjoy, she enjoyed it, then lied to everyone about what happened making 5 look like a piece of s**t. So sad. So heartbreaking. But they’ve both come to me on their own and told me that it wont affect anything with the wedding and they wont make things awkward. I love both of these girls, how can it not affect me? I dunno.
1 and 2 are the only one who have made any effort to help me out with wedding stuff. I dunno…I just feel sad that these are the girls I chose to stand by my side I guess.