(Closed) My Bridesmaids are Fighting

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

Maybe, if it’s possible, try to get a family member to help out as well? Someone who could sort of “lay down the law” with B, without it having to be N who has to try and do it. Maybe B would be more willing to listen to a family member, especially if it seems like she doesn’t respect N’s opinions enough? That way, the relationship between N and B, which already seems fragile, wouldn’t necessarily be damaged further, and they could keep the peace.

Post # 5
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255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

You could handle this several ways and all of them involve you communicating with N & B.  It sounds like N is interested in making this night special to you, whereas B is all about the party. Not saying that these two ideas can’t be meshed but it will take a great deal of tact and cooperation. To start, you have a group of good girls, both seem eager and excited. That’s a HUGE plus (you’re on these boards enough to know this).

Personally I would create a Bachelorette party checkist. You can relay this in writing or in person (or both). Have both N&B present together if you decide to present this checklist in person. You can likely even tell N about it prior to meeting so she can ask about how you “envision” your night, thus allowing you to say…well as a matter of fact…funny you should mention…

Things that would make my night amazing: Lots of drinks, a tanktop identifying me as the bride, dancing the night away at _____ nightclub, a penis shaped shotglass…etc

Things that would make my night uncool: Male strippers, photo’s at the end of the night being posted on FB, a huge gaggle of girls of whom 95% I’ve never met, Justin Bieber Kareoke…etc

The worst you can get is “You don’t get a say in this”. To which you just have to answer that you are “aware of this but that you think it’s important to provide them with an outline, be it basic, of what would totally rock your special night and what the hard boundries are (ie no strippers).

All the best

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

ooh..and before I forget….tact and humour goes a long way here. Honestly, these two things will make the difference between a friendly chat and them seeing you as being in full-out bridezilla freak-out mode.

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