Weddingbee boards

So I wrote http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/straight-up-bridesmaids-frustration a few days ago and today I called the store my BM supposedly ordered her dress from, and my suspiscion was right, no dress.  So I speak to her and nonchalauntly ask if she ordered her dress from the place I told her about, she tells me yes.  Then as gently as I could I said "Well, they said they have no dress on order for you." to which I get yelled at my her saying "___, I'm broke, I couldn't afford a $250 dress!!!" 

Now bee's please keep in mind all of my bridesmaids picked their own dress and paid however much they wanted, I never told them to buy a specific dress at a specific price.  The only instruction they were given if that it had to fall into a certain color category. 

After being yelled at I calmly (because I'm livid from being yelled at) explained to my BM I'm told her several times that in no way shape or form would I be upset if she was unable to be in my wedding and that I've told her SEVERAL times that I understand completely if money is an issue.  Now this BM loves to go out and party and frequently goes to several places a night to which her money goes with her.  Then we all listen to how "broke" she is from the clubs.  I then asked her why she's been lying to me for months about ordernig a dress when she hadn't and why didn't she just tell me the truth.  I explained that it wouldn't have bothered me if she came right out and said she didn't want to be in the wedding and I would understand, but now that I've been lied to I am upset.  I told her I didn't understand why for the last 6 months she's been screaming about how excited she is to be in my wedding and blah blah blah if she had no intentions of being in it.  She had no answer other than "Sorry".

I'm not being a bridezilla but I feel like with 3 months to go until I get married I have every right to be a little upset that one of my friends has been lying to me for months about a dress.  Not only that I've just recently been laid off and unemployment won't be covering the bills so I'm having my own little freak out/crying hysterically party for myself over here.

I just don't understand why as someone who I've known for years she couldn't have just taken one of the outs I gave her when I mentioned several times I wouldn't be hurt if anyone wasn't in it or she could have at least not lied to me.

Ugh, I'm really just having a bad week.

@vmec:She's out, no dress and basically she doesn't give a damn about lying all this time.  I made her fully aware that unfortunetly with not much time to go and because she doesn't have intentions of buying a dress then she won't be able to be a bridesmaid.  She doesn't seem upset over it.