my bridesmaids have booked onto my honeymoon. . .

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
192 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t see the big deal.  You booked a hotel room, not an entire city.

Post # 3
280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think you need to chill out. You don’t own the city. Your bridesmaids can take a trip wherever they want to go.

Post # 4
1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

hmm…it’s odd that your concerns about budget led them to book an initial trip if any of their concern had to do with money. Did it? Anyway while it’s annoying that you were pressured into going on the trip by the friend who backed out (grr!) I do think that their choice of location isn’t a big deal. It sounds like you have larger concerns about their behavior. 

Post # 5
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I doubt your single friends want to play tag-a-long on your honeymoon. Unless you rented out the entire city, worry about something that actually matters. 

Post # 6
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Redd6:  I bet the places a loved-up honeymoon couple will want to visit will not be the same places two single girls will spend time in! I’m sure you guys won’t even run into each other.

Post # 7
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m sorry what? while no you don’t own the city there are also millions of other places they could have picked to go. it’s kinda a slap in the face to go to the same place and be all look at us together being single and having fun without you, i mean I would be kinda hurt if all my friends planned a vaca specifically when I couldn’t go. Not to mention to the same place. I don’t know that’s super strange to me but I find your entire story a bit confusing. 

Post # 9
2793 posts
Sugar bee

They are not “going on the honeymoon” unless they too are planning to have marital relations with your husband!  Yes you could snub them if you should end up in the same resturant/attraction.  Would that help?  Would it make you feel better?

Post # 10
1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Can you rebook your honeymoon to a different location?

I think it’s really weird for your friend to secretly book a vacation at the exact same time and place as your honeymoon. Especially if she has a history of causing drama and making things all about her. If you can’t change your honeymoon location I would suggest not mentioning ANYTHING to the friend about knowing her vacation spot and just Ignore the whole situation. if they end up bringing it up and asking you to meet up during the honeymoon, decline and say, “Sorry, since it’s our honeymoon I want to spend the whole vacation with my fiancé!” If this is all just a big coincidence/totally harmless choice in your friend’s part, she’ll be ok with this. If she really did plan to cause some drama or weirdness, you refusing to meet up with her should foil her plans.

Post # 13
67 posts
Worker bee

I think it’s completely rude of them to do that to you! Yes you don’t own the city but still they could’ve went anywhere else! That would have made me sooo mad! If they knew your plans AND planned this without you knowing then they obviously want to meet up with you and spend time with you on your honeymoon. It’s YOUR honeymoon and it’s YOUR special time with your new husband they shouldn’t have done that. They could’ve at least booked some other week or some other place. In my opinion that’s very selfish on their part.. I’m so sorry:/ maybe if you told them how you felt it would help them see and change their minds? And if they continue to be selfish they I would just avoid and ignore them..

Post # 15
67 posts
Worker bee

Redd6:  I do think talking with them will really help

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