- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
My husband and I got married on paper back in November. We plan to have a wedding/vow renewal in October. I met his brother for the first time a couple weekends ago. The three of us had dinner and drinks.
Neither his brother nor I were very talkative, I think we were both a little nervous and shy, but we spoke about his job and my studies in college, and he showed me some of his artwork on his phone. I didn’t do anything to give his brother such a terrible impression of me, except apparently marrying my husband…
Last night, my husband had a phone call with his brother and apparently he has a very colorful opinion of me.
1.) The brother is browbeating my husband for having gotten married on paper without telling anyone first. It’s not like we had a wedding that his family wasn’t invited to. My husband and I just partook in a legal transaction that made sense at the time since he’s in the military. We’ve assured everyone that the wedding will come soon. My husband’s a grown man of 27, he doesn’t need this flak from anyone.
2.) The brother thinks I remind him of his cheating skank of an ex-wife. …Um… What in the flipping hell? During the dinner, he had gone on a tangent about how she cheated on him and then basically scammed the courts to get full custody of their son. Okay, we all get it. He’s not over his ex, but to say I sort of look like her and remind him of her somehow is just weird and creepy. It’s also immature that he’s using this as a reason not to like me.
3.) He had apparently hinted at me through Facebook comments that I shouldn’t have visited. He wanted to have dinner with my husband alone to catch up with him. …Um, okay, whatever he says.
I think the brother is just trying to make trouble for everyone. My husband just got out of a two week stay in the hospital and it getting discharged from the military. His brother knows that we’re both pretty stressed right now, and the last thing we need to deal with is his attitude problem. My husband doesn’t really see eye-to-eye with me on this, he says that his big brother is just trying to look out for him and even though he’s misguided, he has the best of intentions.
How should I handle this? If my husband keeps trying to justify and defend his brother’s wacky and irrational behavior, it’s probably going to get nasty and I want to avoid that.
I know my post here might come off as kind of bitchy and snarky, but I’m at my wit’s end with him! It’s like if I randomly called his wife just to complain about him.