Post # 1
While just hanging out at home.
I told him he should just think about something a tiny bit more special…..ar at least so something at home to make it memorable….he said he just wants to do it and get it done. What????
OK…I get this is a place I have no business sticking my nose…..but my brother is used to me butting in a little. I know this girl…..she will just be happpy to get the proposal IF THATS THE WAY HE DOES IT…..but I also know her well enough to know that she would really enjoy something that it took a little more effort and sweetness to it.
He thinks it is absolutly rediculous that people put on any sort of production to do this….his first marriage did not include a proposal…but this girl is nothing like his ex….she is amazing.
I told my brother that in need not be a big production….it can be incredibly simple….as long as he makes it sorta special…..not just the same ol as every other night…and “hey, by the way, I got this ring….wanna get married?” …..sittin on the couch!
The ring is fabulous…..its exactly what she wanted.
Please leave your responses to tell me if i am wrong. I just want to be able to tell him the responses from you ladies here…….heck maybe I am wrong….but i told him most women want that sweet moment. When he sees the responses….he will know what to do….and i will know to shut up or not 😉
Post # 3
Fi did it at home when i was sick and overly tired wrapping christmas presents because i waited till the last minute and I wouldnt change a thing (actualy i would change the being sick part but thats it). It was perfect for us!
Post # 4
Ms.Panda……ah, that probably made you feel a little better!
Post # 5
You are right…they will want some sweet story to tell everyone when people ask…friends, family, future children and grandchildren! FI’s dad asked his mom in the car during regular conversation THEN they went to get a ring and he told FI that he wished he had given his mom a better story to remember and tell people…a story to make her smile forever. So that’s what FI did for me, he made it special IN the home with candles, lights, pictures of us through our 5 years, old love letters, notes, poems, and music. He dressed up nice and I didn’t even expect a thing. Hopefully your brother understands that though HE doesn’t want to make a big deal about it his soon to be FI will love him all the more if he does put some effort into the first step in their future together. 🙂 Best of luck to you all!
Post # 6
I think a little effort goes a long way! It seriously does not have to be some big, over the top production, but it makes the moment that much sweeter if some thought has been put into it. It’s a big moment and it would be great if it was memorable for a good reason. Think about how the girlfriend will tell the story of the proposal too. People will want to hear it, and maybe she wants to say something other than, “Oh, it was out of the blue during the commercials in our living room.” I know of at least one girl who wished her boyfriend didn’t do it that way.
My FI is not the most romantic guy, but whenever I think about how he proposed, it makes me smile all cheesy. It was real simple too, when we were on a weekend trip to our favorite place. I love that moment we had together and enjoy telling that story to whoever wants to hear it.
Post # 7
I think all girls would like SOMETHING special.. even though MsPanda said her proposal was at home, I think it’s way cute that he proposed while they were wrapping gifts… and who doesnt love the magic of Christmas? 🙂
Another friend of my and FI’s was proposing to his gf when we were in town, & he lit a bunch of candles around the bedroom so when I dropped her off after we went out to dinner, he told her he loved her, etc… & proposed with all the candles around & he had dressed up in a suit. He had contacted all her friends ahead of time so all of us were waiting on the back patio to celebrate when they came outside (he said he had 1 more surprise for her & led her out back). While it was nothing extravagant & was in their little apartment, it was still a cute little something that he had prepared.
Another friend of ours just proposed to his gf while they were hanging out at home, lounging around. We all heard the story from him about how he proposed, but she still changes the subject anytime someone asks HER how he proposed because she’s embarrassed.. While of course the proposal isn’t as significant as the fact that you’re spending the rest of your life with the person you love, I do think it’s tough when you’re bombarded with “How did he do it?!” by all your friends/family & you dont have anything to say but “he popped the question while we were watching tv on the couch.”
I think SOME sort of romance should be involved; Even if you’re broke, you’d still cook a little dinner for your SO on an anniversary or bake them a cake on their bday.. just a little extra something to show them you care. I feel like the same applies to when you’re asking someone to marry you and spend the rest of their lives with you… I think some thought should be put into it, even if it something simple at home like lighting a few candles & getting down on 1 knee in the dim light to tell them how much they mean to you, or cooking them a nice dinner..
OP, maybe you could come up with some simple (yet thoughtful) suggestions & even offer to help? (like ask her to go out for a drink with you while he does simple preparations at home?)
Post # 8
Yeahh, everyone always asks, “how did he propose?” my answer has to be “while we were laying in bed one night…” their reaction “oh.. that’s nice..”
I THINK he’s planning a follow – up proposal, but I’m not 100% sure.
But it would be nice to have SOMETHING to say..
Post # 9
Oh i told him that when we hubby and I got engaged that almost every lady ans even some men asked how he proposed!
I had an amazing proposal and i loved it. It was sweet, and private and VERY meaningful in the way it was done.
My mom is passed and i love her very much…I always say wish she had gotten to meet him. Every few years he takes me to Catalina Island where he ashes are spread in the ocean. I take roses….go wading out it to the water and release them after a few moment of quiet time by myself just thinking.
He took me out there telling me it was about time to go out there again. I came back from delivering my roses to mom and he led me to a place on the beach (eyes closed) to something “cool” on the beach. Opened my eyes…..there in the sand, written was “Will you marry me?” He was behind me kneeling with the ring. He proposed in the place i feel close to my mom….it was very thoughtful.
Post # 10
Oh I offered to help. He doesnt like my suggestions…..too much. Im still working on it! 🙂
Post # 11
@K_alecia: your story just made me AWW out loud. So sweet! Yeah, I think something like that, with meaning, would be great for her too 🙂
Post # 12
@K_alecia: While I definitely agree with PP’s in the fact that an at home proposal can be very special and in no way is less of a proposal, I also wanted to add a bit of info that a guy friend of ours told us about his proposal to his fiance.
He said they were at home, he was nervous, knowing he wanted to do it that night at some point. They were getting ready to go out for dinner and as she came down the stairs he was on one knee at the bottom where he asked her to be his wife. I loved the story and the element of surprise.
BUT, he mentioned that he wished he had done it somehwere they could always return, or take their kids one day. See, they’re planning to sell that house within the next 5 years or so, and he was just a bit disappointed in himself that he didn’t choose a different place that was still special to the both of them, and still special.
Just food for thought.
Post # 13
Bella – I thought my proposal was awwww worthy too. Im lucky i have a very thoughtful hubby
Home can be a good place….it just needs to be special.
If he insist in hanging out on couch and doing it…ugh!
Movie night? Make popcorn. Tease her and tell her he cant have any of his and give her her own bowl…. him a big one her a kinda small one/ put the ring in there and when she pulls it out with a “what the????” He can get down on knee and propose……
But could she possibly accidently pop the ring in her mouth??
that could be cute….
Post # 14
@K_alecia: I agree!! A little thoughtfulness goes a long way! One of my classmates got proposed to while she was sitting on the couch at home with her boyfriend. I felt sorry for her. It was a boring story and it made me think, “Does he care? Doesn’t he think she’s special?” It’s like he put in zero effort. I get it that this is a big move and it’s a lot of pressure on guys. I totally get that. When my boyfriend asked me to be his girlfriend/exclusive, he was soooo nervous, it took him numerous tries. I think sometimes guys have to get to the point where they are comfortable, and perhaps your bro feels most comfortable at home if he’s nervous about getting the words out. But if he just puts in a little more effort . . . he can make it really memorable for them. One of my friends’ proposal story involves just a hike up a mountain . . . one of her favorite activities with her man . . . and he proposed after they went up to the top and were resting. Simple, but also special and romantic. No frills, no muss or fuss . .. but it’s a nice story! It really is true that planning something makes it more special!
Post # 15
I wish my proposal had been a bit more sweet….hot, sweaty, cranky, waiting in line for a water ride at Disneyland…but it was definitely memorable!
Post # 16
The way he’s planning on doing it seems great to me. Huge productions to me seem to be just that: huge productions; not a sweet moment between two people. As for memorable, it will be memorable by the mere fact that he’s proposing; no need for frills.