My brother is such an asshole: Part Two

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6026 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Honestly it sounds like your family is way too dependent on one another. You’be got your brother’s cable bill in your name, your parents have your dog, everyone is up in everyone else’s business and that’s preventing any of you from being fully self-sufficient. If the cable situation is still going on then end it. Find a safe temporary home for the dog immediately then move somewhere where you can have your dog even if it means breaking your lease. Let your brother worry about himself and encourage your parents to do the same. 

Post # 6
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6026 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Except all these “helpful” things you all keep doing for each other don’t seem to be making anyone’s lives any easier. It will be so much better if you each look after your own things/pets/etc and accept responsibility for yourselves than to continue this cycle of helping-then-fighting.

Post # 7
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1802 posts
Buzzing bee

He still owes you the money, but you may never see that money, unfortunately. I learned young (from my parents mistakes) that you can never loan anyone money, even family, and expect to see it ever again. As for your dog, I would definitely get him out of that situation. All of this seems like your brother has had a sudden mental change, and I wouldn’t hold it against him if he acted on that threat. If your brother does end up doing something to your dog then definitely call the cops. Your dog doesn’t deserve that. 

Post # 8
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1083 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@BakerBee16:  I’m sorry this is happening. Your dog is 15 years old and stays outside all the time? Maybe you can move him to a nice retirement home, especially if he is a good pup. 

Post # 11
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1749 posts
Bumble bee

Take charge and go get your dog. Find somewhere where it can be inside in its old age! Even if that’s not with you. If it’s barking and nobody has checked on it, and your brother is saying he’s going to kill it…. sounds like pup needs a new place to go.

 

And yes, your brother is a douchelord.

Post # 13
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2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

What worries me the most about this post is that you say your mom is afraid to talk to your brother because he’s violent.  Where’s your dad in all this?  They need to stand up to him and take back control of their home.

Post # 14
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6026 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

@BakerBee16:  your brother doesn’t respect you. if he did, he’d have repaid you and he wouldn’t be acting like a dick about the dog, and I’m sure there’s a whole laundry list of other offenses. He doesn’t respect your parents— you said he treats them like dirt. You resent the heck out of him, too. And you’re angry, stressed and hurt over it all. So why would you continue to help him out? You’d never tolerate a friend who disrespected you or your parents. Why are you giving your brother a free pass? he is not going to magically get his act together and you can either continue to feed the madness or you can stand up for yourself and your dog and hope that your parents follow suit.

 

Post # 15
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160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@BakerBee16:  I wanna say this gently, but, there is a big difference in helping out vs. enabling, and you are definitely in the latter.  Please find a way to get the dog out of this situation.  I won’t even get into what I think about the poor thing being an “outside dog”.

Post # 16
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968 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Please remove your dog from that environment! He didn’t do anything to deserve that treatment! Please!

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