Post # 1
I just found out yesterday that my brother and his girlfriend are planning on getting engaged next month. They already sat down with her parents last week and they said yes and last night they had a talk to get my parents blessing. I feel bad because I know that my mom gave my brother and his girlfriend a “counterproposal” that they finish their associates before they get married. (My brother is 20 and his girlfriend is 19) and that really hurt my brother’s feelings. She always plays the devils advocate to everything and is both shocked and surprised by the suggestion that they want to get married. I’m sure my mom is freaking out because she might think that my brother would like help with the funds for the wedding and that both of us are so young but if they think they can make it I think they can.
I know my brother loves her more than everything on this earth so I know he will take as good of care of her as he can. She is a sweetheart and while they still have maturing to do all I can do right now is wish them the best of luck. I know that if they feel this is the right timing, it must be. They’ve been together for a long time (over three years) and I can just hope that he will not resent having not seen the world before getting married. (They are thinking the spring or summer of next year).
I think I’m also super proud of my brother. He always struggles with the approval of my parents. Even though he is old enough to know he can make his own decisions, he still needs our parents approval for everything (or he won’t do it). This has been the source of much angst between us because he has done everything the “right” way and I’m way more independent. I think he’s struggling because my mom said “not right now” and he’s thinking of going ahead and doing it anyways. I told him to do what he thinks is best….it’s almost the biggest life decision they’ll have to make.
Post # 3
@SweetRose2011: sent you a PM 🙂 Im glad to hear you two are supporting each other and Im sure it will work out love *hugs*
Post # 4
@SweetRose2011: You are such a kind, supportive sister 🙂 A very sweet post, love and hugs to you and your bro!
Post # 5
I love how supportive you are! More people should be like you! 🙂
Oh and good luck to your brother and his Girlfriend
Post # 6
I wish them well. I am glad that you do too. Instead of saying something against “my kids” getting married, I offered them a small incentive for my daughter to continue with school. My daughter is graduating this year.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2011 - Sydney, Australia
My little brother recently got engaged (by little = 24!) – but his now fiance is my bridesmaid, so it worked out well. I’m SO happy to have another wedding in the family!
Post # 8
You are such a sweet sister. 🙂
Post # 9
Aww thank you everyone. It’s been a little tough because when my brother first told me he had texted me and asked me not to come over for dinner that night. He said he didn’t want to be rude he just wanted to talk to my parents alone. I jokingly texted “why so you can ask for her hand in marriage?!” and he said yes…something I was not expecting!
Post # 10
@SweetRose2011: I remember your post. Congrats to your brother. However, are you sure it’s because of funds your mum is being a bit hesitant? I have a brother who is about to leave being a teenager and the thought of him marrying his gf doesn’t make me that happy for him. Only because I think he’s too young. He’s mature for his age, just not mature enough for marriage. OTOH, I was a senior in HS when he was born so I look at him as a kid most of the time. Maybe that’s what you rmum is doing.
Post # 11
@bRooklynRocks:I look at him as a kid too but I think it’s also because I went through a lot of changes that I don’t see him having gone through. Now that I’ve had time to think about things I genuinely am happy for them, though I do have a few worries. But my Fiance told me and I think I agree that whatever happens was destined to happen. Whatever I tell my brother isn’t going to change his mind at this point. He has realized he’s a big boy capable of making his own decisions. He’s all in this. And will do his damndest to take care of her I hope.
Post # 12
Aw, that’s awesome! So cute!
Post # 13
@MissMedic:I’m pretty excited now…just a teeny bit worried and stressed.