- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I don’t even know if this is being posted in the right section…and I’m going to appologize now because I have a feeling this may be long, so here goes.
I am the oldest of 5 siblings. I have 4 younger brothers (2 of which still live at home). I know money is tight with my family so when I got engaged and started planning our wedding I made it very clear to my parents that I did not expect or want them to feel they have to put any money towards our wedding. They were happy (relieved really lol) to hear that, but my mom said that they were still going to help out and pitch in where they could. After my mom and I went dress shopping the first time she kept talking about this one dress that she loved. I admit, it was pretty but it just wasn’t mine. I told her it was to expensive and way out of my price range and that’s when she said that they had decided they were paying for my dress. I felt so happy and so guilty all at the same time…but I really appreciate their generosity.
Well, my mom and I went out again a second time and found THE dress. It’s beautiful and so perfect. It’s a little cheaper than the one my mom was in love with, but she said she’s not the one wearing it and as long as I love it and am happy that’s all that matters. We left with the intentions of coming back in a few weeks to order it. I called the store last week and spoke to the same woman who helped me that day. She was able to give us a deal (no tax, plus a big discount off the veil), but was only able to offer that till the end of the month. I was excited, called my mom and she said something came up so it was going to have to wait. I asked what happend, and all she would say is that there was an emergency and my brother needed money so they helped him out.
My first thought was he needed bail money, but I was wrong. My brother is in the navy and lives on the other side of the country. He is also the golden child. Apparently last week he went out drinking with some buddies and when they were leaving he knocked over some biker dudes bike. The biker came out (with 3 of his biker friends) and they were not happy. Things got scarry so my brother and his friends jumped in their car and left. The bikers called the police, the police were going to charge my brother with leaving the scene of an accident which could be the end of his career. If you get charged by the police, the navy will charge you again. He explained to the police officer that he believed his life was in danger and didn’t have time to call 911. The officer was understanding and said he wouldn’t charge him if he paid the bill for the damages done to the bike.
Well, that total was double what my dress is. I’m happy my brother’s alright, and I’m glad that he didn’t get in trouble with the law. I do think he’s a moron. Seriously, how hard so you have to hit a bike WALKING to knock it over? It also bothers me that he gets in trouble and goes running to my parents to help him out, But that bridezilla part of me feels like he’s ruining my moment. And it’s so stupid!! I’m trying so hard not to be immature and jealous over this. I know I’m being irrational, but I’m just so disapointed. I offered to put the deposit down on the dress myself so we can save that deal but that irritated my mom and she thinks it would defeat the whole purpose of them buying my dress. I know eventually I will get my dress, but now I feel even more guilty having my parents pay for it since I know how much they had to shell out for my brother, and I know how much my dress will come to with taxes. I feel like it’s to much money.
Alright, rant over. I’m not sure what I’m looking for by writing this. My mom swore me to secrecy to protect my bro, so I haven’t been able to bitch about it to any of my friends. I just needed to get it out before it builds up any more in my head, and I figured since this is an anonymous site I would be safe. Or rather, he would be. Ugh.