- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Help! I have always disliked my brother’s girlfriend (it all started years ago, they were figting and to get back at him, she messaged all his his female friends online, including me- his sister – and warned them about getting an STD from him!) She still has not apologized for that fiasco. This girl offends everyone around her, including my brother, and appears to have some sort of an axis 2 diagnosis, such as a major personality disorder (bordeline, histrionic). Then my worst fear came true…They had a baby.
I’m getting married in 35 days. My mother and family have tried to be supportive to my brother and his baby mama, however, her behavior is getting worse and worse with each family function we invite her to. For example, she was invited to our couples shower, got completely wasted, made some very unsavory comments bordering on racist, and told everyone how excited she is to marry my brother as soon as she divorces her “asshole ex-husband” who is already married to another woman (??? I have no idea how this is even possible!!! Polygamy is ilelgal in Ohio!) This is just a snapshot of her behavior – it’s obviously much worse when she is drinking, but she is also very difficult to be around even when dead sober. She speaks in one volume, full blast!
My question is: we are considering uninviting her to the rehersal dinner and/or the wedding based upon her escalating behaviors observed at the couples shower. I know that most of my family and fiance’s family concur this is the safest bet; but I’m wondering if anyone has any other ideas… I would love to try and hold an intervention for her, but how do you help some realize they are a social liability? We have begged her to see a psychotherapist, but refuses, claims she can’t afford it. And forget my brother trying to intervene with the woman, he’s useless. Is it possble to invite someone to a wedding but forbid them to drink? What about talking too much? Too Loud? LOL Ok, I know that’s asking a bit much, but I’m running out of options. Our wedding is in a beautiful country club and lots of important colleagues and extended family will be there meeting for the first time. I can’t let her turn it into a circus!
Any ideas??? We’re desparate!