(Closed) My cat may end up homeless and DH isn't being very sensitive about it

posted 5 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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4328 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Put your foot down. You had the cat before the SO, correct? You’re entitled to your pet as he is his dog.

Check out “My Cat From Hell” episodes with Jackson Galaxy. There are clips on youtube that will be helpful to you training your pets to tolerate eachother.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Sure thing!  Mr. 99 had two big dogs and I had a cat.  It’s anyone’s guess how they’ll get along, but if you keep them separated and under observation until you DO know, there’s no reason you can’t all be together!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’s your cat. He needs to deal with it and work with you to make this work. You obviously didn’t ask him to give up his dog, I’m a little appalled that he asked that of you.

Post # 6
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12569 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you need to sit down and ask him why he can keep his dog, no questions asked, but you are the one who has to give up your cat without a discussion.  Hopefully the two will get along and this will become a moot point…  Good luck!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

Cats and dogs get along all the time. I would put my foot down about keeping the cat I had for years. Make him give it a try for a month before you line up a forever home for her.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@kryssbride:  Seriously?

The idea that just because your DH doesn’t want to deal with the ‘inconvenience’ of having your cat around you’d consider sending her to the pound makes my blood boil.

At the very least, find a good, loving home for her.

When I got my cat I made the promise to take care of him for his whole life. I am lucky that my boyfriend is a cat person too, but believe me – if he wasn’t – there is no way in hell I would have pawned my cat off to someone else just because he doesn’t like them. Non negotiable.

You need to put your foot down.

I understand the complexities of having a dog and cat in the same place, but you need to at least try it out.

This just makes me sad. I know you’re upset about this, but really, why are you letting yourself be pushed around at the expense of a poor, innocent animal?

Post # 9
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305 posts
Helper bee

my dog never lived with a cat before until about six months ago and she loves!!! the 2 cats. 

Post # 11
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305 posts
Helper bee

be prepared the cat will probably do a lot of hissing at the dog the first week, ours did, but after that, it all settled down.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t understand why you haven’t even tested how they would be around each other. Just because your cat hasn’t been around dogs in the past doesn’t automatically mean it won’t go well. Give them a transition period together and see how it goes, THEN see if you still need to find it a new home.

Post # 14
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412 posts
Helper bee

not cool. the cat is part of your life. yes there may be an adjustment period, and yes there may be some inconveniences for the rest of its life (like the fur. although really, most dogs i’ve found shed more than cats), but the cat is your baby. if you’d had a kid with another guy, who up until this point had full custody, but now was unfit to care for them, would he say you should put them in the system because he doesn’t want mud tracked into his house and kids toys everywhere? the cat moving in with you was always a possibility. he needs to suck it up, and more than that, he needs to actively help make this transition work.

i haven’t checked the links above, but generally so long as the cat can get away from the dog and not feel threatened, they should be okay. they won’t necessarily be friends but they should coexist fine. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t get why you haven’t even tried to introduce them to each other.  Plenty of dogs and cats get along great!

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