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    OfficeBride    2010  

    I know this has nothing to do with wedding planning, but I'm really bummed out right now and needed to share.  My cat passed away this weekend :(  I've had him for 15 years since I was 12, and he's been there for three graduations, different boyfriends, and when I just needed some company.  He truly had a unique personality - feisty but loveable all the same.  I cried on and off all day yesterday.  I really didn't think it would hurt this much, but I guess it should come as no surprise since he was my first pet, and I love animals.  

    When I first became engaged, my family and I joked that my cat would be the ring bearer since I only have nieces :)

    I miss him so much, and it's still a bit surreal that he's not here :(  I hope he knows that he was loved and considered part of the family.

     
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    Golden Ticket    October 1, 1991   Baltimore, Maryland

    There's nothing like the loss of a beloved pet. I'm sure he knows he was loved. Hugs to you!

     
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    Amanda_V    Oct. 3rd, 2009   Kentucky

    I'm so sorry dear! <<Hugs>> I know exactly how you feel. I can't say that I've never had a cat that long, but I had a dog that passed at 13 years old. We got him when he was just 2 days old because his mother wouldn't have him. When he passed, I mourned badly. They DO become part of the family after a while. I'm sure he knew that he was loved and care for.

    I know this sounds silly, but I've heard mention on animal planet about the Rainbow Bridge. It's a pet heaven. So I like to think that this is where my pets have gone:

    http://www.petloss.com/poems/maingrp/rainbowb.htm

     

    <<MORE HUGS>>

     
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    PomPom    June 19, 2010   Chicago

    I'm so, SO sorry for your loss. I am also a huge animal lover and have lost pets over the years. It is always surprising how much it hurts and it never gets easier. My vet gave me this poem after my last pet passed away tragically and it gave me lots of comfort. This is one version of it:

    <span style="font-size: medium; font-family: Comic Sans MS;">Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

    When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
    There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
    There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

    All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
    The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

    They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

    You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

    Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

    I can't even read it without crying. I really like the idea of eventually being reunited with all of my pets one day. Your cat absolutely knew how much you love him. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    I'm so sorry. :(

     
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    pmerr    August 14, 2010   Rochester, NY

    Awww! I'm soo sorry! I know how hard it is! They are like family!

     
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    Future Mrs. Martin    August 21, 2010   London Ontario Canada

    I am sooo sorry for you loss!

    I have a dog that I have had since I was 13 and he is really starting to show his age. I empathize with you as he has been with you for as long as you can remember but I cannot imagine how much it hurts!

    *HUGS*

     
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    VegasBaby    October 2010   Illinois

    I'm so sorry to hear that! I am very attached to my kitties, and in July one of my beloveds got out and has been missing every since. I totally understand how upsetting the loss of a pet can be.

     

    ((hugs))

     
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    RoddyBride09    September 5, 2009   Bethlehem, PA

    I am so sorry to hear that. I have not gone through something like this in my life yet but in time I will as we have a nearly 8 year old Choco-Rotty poochie.

    I hope your memories can give you comfort during this difficult time.

     
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    kara    September 26, 2009   Northern VA/Cincinnati OH

    I am so so sorry.  I know how hard it is, and I hope you're hanging in there.  Just remember how much you loved him, and I'm absolutely sure he had a fabulous life full of love, petting and purring! BIG HUGS!

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    I'm sorry about your cat! My friend's cat passed away this weekend too and she was really sad because she has moved continents and couldn't be with her cat for the last year.

     
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    MochaRose    June 26, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    Hi OfficeBride,

    My dog Chino died in March after 17 years by my side. I remember first taking him home as a puppy when I was just 8 years old. He'd always been there. Always. Through all sorts of the life changes and milestones that happen between the ages of 8 and 24 (can you imagine?). And it's hard for me to think about him not being here for my wedding. :( When he died, there was a sort of dark cloud over our house. Because a stable element was missing. And it didn't feel right. And it felt that way for a while, but after that, you find joy in the memories of your special friend. Things he did that were funny or cute, even the things that he used to get in trouble for, LOL.

    And what I kept reminding myself right after he passed away that helped was how lucky I was to have a friend like him. You KNOW you had something amazing when it hurts this badly to let go.

    That said, I completely understand the pain of your loss. Feel better. Take it one day at a time. In the meantime, here's an internet :::HUG::: from me. Hope it helps. Even if just for a moment.

     
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    alishaneva    May 2011   Lancaster, PA

    *hugs hugs hugs*

     
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    catlady    June 26, 2010   Toronto

    I'm so sorry for your lost.  My FI lost his cat of 21 years about a month ago.  I know there's nothing anyone can say to make you feel better.  Losing a pet is tough; it's tougher than expected.

    When FI lost his cat, the only thing that helped was to write a letter.  Let it all out and write what you feel.  I found it really helped.

    I'm sure your cat knew he was loved and knows how much you miss him.  He's brought you so much love for so may years and although it hurts, I promise you it'll get better.

     
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    futuredrbraun    May 15, 2010  

    Awwwwwwwwwww I am so so so sorry. I can't even imagine how much you are hurting. To lose my cat would be like to lose my family member...I would be hurting just as much. Especially because he has been with you for so many big life events and loved you unconditionally through all of them. ((((((HUGS)))))

     
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    seeing.greene    May 22, 2010   Texas

    aw, I'm sorry. It's so hard loosing a loved one...pets are loved ones for sure. 

     
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    Soon2BeMrsC    March 20, 2010   Wine Country

    I'm sorry about your loss.  I'm sure he knew exactly how much he meant to you.  Animals are very perceptive.

     
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    OfficeBride    2010  

    Ladies - I am so touched by all of your kind words and virtual hugs :)  I never expected such a response, especially since this is a wedding site!  I took all of Monday off - cried on and off throughout the day, and it really helped to talk it out with my fiance and my mom (who was also especially close to our cat).  I also decided to have the family over at our place for dinner on Sunday and just laugh about the good times we had with him.

    Again, thank you so very much for your messages!  I know we don't know one another, but it means a lot to me just the same!

     

    xoxo

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I'm so sorry for your loss.  I know how special animal companions can be--I love our cats so much. 

     
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    DaisyBride    June 1, 2009  

    It's a wonderful idea to have a dinner in honor of your cat.  I think that talking about good times with him will really help you to move past this and focus on the positive - that you gave him a wonderful life!

    I have a 15 year old cat and every times she gets a hairball I worry that something is wrong with her.  I've even disurbed her while she is sleeping to make sure that she is still breathing.  I can only imagine the pain that you are feeling.

     

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