Post # 1
My cat, who was three months shy of 7 years old passed away Sunday night. It was really sudden. On Friday night, Fiance and I witnessed him having a seizure. We were rushing around prepping him to go to the ER vet, had him in his carrier with the top open when he suddenly jumped out and act like nothing happened! Spoke with the ER on the phone, confirmed he did have a seizure and told us to just watch him since the seizure was less than 5 mins and nothing like that has ever happened before! Scared the beejeezus out of me!
I took him to my regular vet first thing the next morning. He checked out fine physically and our vet did not seem concerned. Said I could do a bloodwork test although he didn’t think we’d find anything. I told him to do the bloodwork anyway. It came back completely normal. He has always been perfectly healthy his whole life; indoor, at a good weight and fed him as natural of a diet as possible.
My cat seemed like he was 100% better on Sunday morning. Then Sunday night I think he had another seizure around midnight 🙁 I was still up in the living room and my cat decided to nap on one of the dinning chairs. He fell off it, I heard a crash and ran right to him. He was breathing very slowly for like a few seconds and then I knew he might have been gone 🙁
I screamed for Fiance and he tried to do CPR on Sammy while I called the ER, but they told me if he was not breathing there wasn’t anything we could do 🙁
It was so sudden and everyone, including our vet, is really shocked. I am so heartbroken and I don’t know what to do. The house feels so empty without our kitty and I don’t want o get another one right away for fear I am not paying proper respects for my dear Sammy. Anyone have any suggestions to help cope with this? I feel like I lost my best friend 🙁
Post # 3
Just wanted to say how sorry I am for the loss of your Sammy. I lost one of my two cats a year ago somewhat suddenly due to a stroke so I understand what you are going through. It’s just going to take some time and some tears before you will feel better, but you will get there eventually. I ended up getting a new kitten a few months later. I too worried if it was too soon, but my other cat was very sad and lonely so we thought he needed a buddy. The new cat reminds us often of our sweet cat that we lost and her antics make us laugh. My thoughts are with you!
Post # 4
I’m so sorry! I have two cats and I can’t imagine what I’ll do when they are gone. Just wanted to let you know i’m thinking of you!
Post # 5
Oh my goshhh. I am soooo sorryyy. I am sending you my love.. I would be devastated.
Post # 6
Thank you so much for the thoughts everyone. I really appreciate it. He was my first cat and still rather young. I think because it was so sudden and unexpected, it’s been that much harder to deal with 🙁
Post # 7
Aww. ((Hugs)) I just lost a friend last week myself. It was not as sudden as yours, but my vet diagnosed the problem, and she was gone nearly 2 weeks to the day later. It’s hard. I feel the same emptiness in my home as well.
I have a therapist that I see anyway to head off unforeseen things that life throws at me, and she counseled me through the diagnosis stage. I told her how anxious I was about how it would feel after she was gone, and how terribly I was going to feel. I also thought about not getting another pet, BUT she said something that really struck home with me.
1) If you go through life avoiding other pets because “they die, and I’ll be sad,” you are going to miss out on some amazing times with a fuzz ball that is completely going to enrich your experiences. They love you unconditionally, bring joy, and many sweet memories for years to come.
2) Getting a new pet is NOT disrespectful to the deceased. In fact, it honors your bygone friend, because you get to open your home to another fuzz-ball as tribute to the love and memories the first one brought to you. By opening your home to a sweet animal that needs love, you perpetuate the love you have (and WILL ALWAYS have) for your little Sammy.
I know emotions are really raw right now, and whomever you decide to bring into your life is not going to replace your pet, but at least you will be honoring him by offering your heart to another lovebug in need of a friend. Hopefully that helps.
Post # 8
@StuporDuck: Thank you so much for the reply. I am sorry for the loss of your friend too. #2 was really helpful to read. I just was afraid of having feelings like I was replacing my cat so soon or like he would be so easy to replace, when he really was one of a kind in my heart.
I know so many cats flood shelters every day who are in need of a home. FI and I did talk about getting another cat in the future, he says whenever I am ready. I have always felt bad we could not give Sammy a playmate so I was contemplating maybe adopting two. It does help to think I am honoring him versus replacing him whenever we do decide to adopt a new cat. After reading your reply maybe I will be ready sooner than I thought knowing I could offer our home for someone in need of it. Thank you so much again.
Post # 9
Just wanted to say I’m so sorry! : ( Pets are totally family. My dog is only 3 and any time I think about her being gone some day, I tear up. It’s just not fair that they don’t get enough time here with us.
I say give it a few weeks and if you feel like you’re ready for a new cat, do it. Shelters are always overrun with kitties needing a good home!
Post # 10
I don’t have any advice… I just want to say I am so sorry and sending big hugs your way… Pets are family so its always hard when one goes… I can’t even imagine… 🙁
Post # 11
I’m so sorry for your loss 🙁 Your story made me tear up. I’ve lost three pets in the last year and I know how hard it is. You are in my thoughts <3
In my experience, time is what heals best. You’ll know when you’re ready to get another cat.
Post # 12
I am so sorry for your loss. 🙁 Just remember there is no right or wrong time to get another kitty, if you ever decide to get one.
When my Boston Terrier girl was getting older and having more health problems, she “sent” me a little Boston dude. My now husband and I went to just “look” at some puppies. We were looking at a few of the younger pups, until the woman told us the little guy in the corner was the last of his litter, born on December 1st. That was my girl’s birthday! He was born exactly 10 years after her. Bonnie died less than a year later. I feel she gave me Harv as a way to cope with losing her, and as a happy little reminder of her on their birthday. 🙂
Post # 13
I am so so sorry. That must be devastating. I don’t have any great advice, but I wanted to let you know my heart goes out to you.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry for your loss. How terrible. 🙁 My heart breaks for you.
Post # 15
I am so sorry, that is awful how sudden and unexpected it was. I know losing a pet is just as hard as losing a person.
Post # 16
@lovejewel: I’m so sorry to hear of this 🙁 I lost my beautiful baby boy puppy, Sam suddenly and unexpectedly at 1 year last November – he didn’t seizure but the way he passed was very similar to your Sammy. I was numb for days. I know what you are feeling, and it’s okay for you to be upset and cry…he was a part of your life and your family. Sending lots of hugs and well wishes your way. xx