- 5 years ago
This is the most monstrous thing they have ever done to me. Far worse than the Christmas debacle I posted about earlier. Far worse than the physical and mental abuse they put me through during my childhood. I might have to drop out of law school because of them.
This will take some explaining. As you might know my parents are currently helping with my living expenses and law school tuition. I paid for the first year in full out of my savings and they generously offered to pay the rest. I was thrilled because I want to go into public interest which would be impossible to do with a massive amount of loans. I have never made it a secret how grateful I am for this and mention it all the time.
I have one sister who I thought was my best friend. After college she went to a graduate program that offers full stipends to its students, tuitition and living expenses. She also has a part time business to supplement her income. She did not need or want my parents’ support but they still gave her money for groceries and pay for her phone bill etc. They also promised her to pay for her HOUSE DOWNPAYMENT to make things “fair” since they were giving me extra help with my tuition. I have no problem with this and never did and I think we’re both very fortunate.
My sister has some severe mental problems and has been getting progressively worse with her “therapy” from an extremely sketchy therapist who I’m sure is just after her money and medication she never should have gotten on in the first place and a boyfriend that encourages her mental meltdowns and coddles her far too much. I’ve posted about how she’s been ignoring me and being a bitch to me all year, but I never realized why. I know now. She recently came down after spending Christmas with her bf and exploded on my parents about how it’s not fair that they’re helping me with my tuition, that they’re giving me more money than they give her and therefore love me more (???). I have a part time business as well that I work very very hard in. I have offered my parents money numerous times and they have turned me down 100%, telling me to save it instead. This December my SO and I went to Disney World, a vacation we saved for for 18 months. In addition to the trip I put 6,000 dollars in my savings and invested much more in capital for my business. When my sister found out, she exploded, saying I was getting my expenses paid for and still got to take trips and it wasn’t fair. She gave my parents an ultimatum. Either stop supporting me or give her the exact amount they’re paying for my tuition in cash or she would stop speaking to all of us.
This morning my mom tells me she needs to talk to me. She says she agrees with sister that it’s not fair that they’re giving me so much money especially now that I have my business and can afford it and she wants me to take out some loans. I’m not happy about this because they can easily afford to keep their end of the bargain and I relied on their inital promise to pay for the last year and a half of school, but fine.
Then she drops the bomb. They will not be paying for this upcoming semester’s tuition. They want me to take out a loan to pay for it. The money is due next week and there is no way I can get a loan in that little time. I don’t have enough in my savings to cover it as I just reinvested a TON of it in inventory for my business. I have about half. I asked if I could pay half and pay her back later and she says no because “we’re tired of paying for you and we don’t want your sister to hate us.”
I am at a loss. They’ve complained all the time about paying for me and always throw it in my face, but EVERY TIME I offer them money, they turn it down! I’ve had cash in hand trying to give it to them and they’ve always said no! Now, because my mentally unstable sister threw me under the bus, they are demanding I pay a huge amount of money I don’t have in an incredibly short amount of time. My SO is going to pay for half, and I’m going to pay him back, that is the only way we can make this work, but I’m terrified about making payments for the upcoming semesters. But we should not be having to do this. They should have given me warning, they should have given me more time, and more importantly, how could my sister do this to me? Our relationship will never recover from this.
I am just at a loss bees.