My cousin and I like the same baby girl name….

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think it’s a little early to worry about it if neither of you are pregnant or planning for kids right this moment! Plus, minds can change down the road! I wouldn’t make this an issue now.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@TwoStatesBride:  This is just one of those things that is “early bird gets the worm” lol. Don’t worry about it just yet, there’s a good chance that you’ll have a daughter before her since she’s not in a serious relationship/just got a divorce. That doesn’t mean she couldn’t have a fling and get pregnant but…that’s just stuff you can’t worry about. Have fun TTC in a few years!!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That sucks, but for now don’t let it get in the way of your relationship with your cousin. Who knows what will happen in the next few years, or if either of you will even have a baby girl?

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

@TwoStatesBride:  In Greece it is a tradition that kids are named after their grandparents. My mother has 4 cousins named Maria and it’s not considered weird at all. I understand that this is happening in the states, but I highly doubt people would find it that bizarre, especially after you say Child is named after her great grandmother!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Of all the things to worry about, this would be pretty low on my list. If that’s what you want to name your daughter, go for it. Your cousin can make her own decisions. You can’t call dibs on a name. Especially if neither of you is pregnant! No reasons cousins can’t have the same first name. They’ll probably get different nick names.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@TwoStatesBride:  I’m not going to lie, I thought this would be one of those “Oh man, this bee needs a reality check” posts when I clicked on it. WHAT A BREATH OF FRESH AIR! Lol, seriously. I think it’s great that neither of you are upset about this, particuarly now when there are no baby girls. 

I think it’s totally fine to have the same name in a family. It’s a family name. Plus, look at how many families have something like “Mary Catherine, Mary Ann, Mary whatever.” It’s fine. You’ll just have to actually use the middle names. 

FWIW, I’m kind of in this position. A few years ago we realized that my great grandpa (technically step, but this grandpa has been my “real” grandpa my whole life. he married my grandma before I was born. Her ex husband sucked and I’ve had little to no realtionship with him.) had the name Emmett. Both DH and I really love the name and thought it would be a great way to honor my grandpa’s special place in my life since we’re really close. 

Well, I found out last summer that my grandpa’s son (step uncle) who is estranged from my family and hadn’t called or seen his dad in years named his second son “Emmett” when he was born over a year ago. I was sad for a moment, and then realised, “No, screw it. If we still want to use the name, we will. It’s a family name.” He has a legitimate reason to have used the name (Considering he’s so removed from my grandpa I don’t understand it, but whatevs), but so do I. It’s also very probable these kids will never even meet since I haven’t seen him in at least 10 years. 

Sorry for the book. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Honestly I think it’s fine. My patents barely see their cousins anymore and I don’t have much of a relationship with my second cousins so it wouldn’t be that strange to have the same name.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

It’s not a big deal.  It’s not like your sister is using the same names.  Although my aunt (married into our family) and her sister have sons with the same first names.  One went by Joe and the other is Joseph.  My grandmother and her sister used the same first names too, and my dad uses just his first name, his cousin, born 11 years later uses same first name + middle name. 

My brother’s and first cousins al lhave the same middle name (grampa’s first name). 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It’s okay to have matching names. Your name choice may change in a couple years so don’t make this an issue or concern now.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@TwoStatesBride:  I have a girl name picked out that I am guarding under lock and key and only my FI and my Mom know.

It is possible that my sister will have another baby before I do but I already decided I am keeping that name!  I told my Mom if she has two grandchilden with the same name she will just have to come up with nicknames. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@FutureMrsJohnson_:  +1 

@Mrs.LemonDrop:  I have two first cousins on my dad’s side named Emmett.They’re thirty years apart in age, and don’t see each other very often at all … so I guess it’s not that weird, but still, it’s not very often that you hear of cousins sharing the same name. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

There is nothing that says cousins can’t have the same name.  There are a lot of Edwards and Eddies in my dad’s family because they were named in honor of a grandfather and great-grandfather.  That said, they can always use different nicknames at family events if it gets too confusing.  Other than that, it’s just a matter of who has a daughter.  Who knows?  You may only have sons and never need to use the name at all.

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