My cousin dosnt aknowledge me

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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3410 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I totally understand and get what you are going through. My sister in law is exactly the same, is FB friends with everyone except me (randomly defriended me) and will not acknowledge me at social gatherings which is super awkward.

I remind myself (when I get sad about it) that there is nothing I have done to deserve this, and that it is her issue, not mine. I refuse to carry bitterness and hate in my life.

 

Post # 4
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1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think you need to acknowledge that you two are not going to be close friends. To be honest I’m not sure why you feel the need to be close to someone who, from what you’re saying, hasn’t ever treated you particularly well. Do you two socialise much outside of family functions? If not then a cordial but not close relationship sounds pretty acceptable to me. 

Post # 5
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3709 posts
Sugar bee

I have no relationship with one uncle and his family. This uncle/aunt received an invitation to my sister’s wedding – at my father’s insistence – and then didn’t even have the courtesy to respond. 2 months after our save-the-dates went out, the aunt asked me to be her friend on Facebook (she didn’t ask my sister and isn’t friends with any of our other 3 cousins). I blocked her. It was quite transparent that she was just fishing for an invitation, since her kids want to go to a large amusment park, near our venue. (The kids wouldn’ have been invited to the wedding, anyway). We’re not inviting an uncle from my FH’s side, either. No relationship, either; not worth the aggravation.  

Post # 6
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2684 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@Ap2010:  That stinks, I’m sorry. I think for your own mental health you would be best off just ignoring her and not thinking about her. Why focus so much attention on someone who doesn’t deserve it? Focus on people who love you instead.

Post # 7
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2421 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Ap2010:  I don’t particularly care for 2 of my cousins.  I’m FB friends with one of them, not the other.  I’m much closer to their older sister and actually talk to her.  These 2 have just not shown to be worth the effort of a relationship.  So I don’t bother.  

In particular I will never be able to forgive how they treated my Nana towards the end of her life.  Nor will I excuse or forgive their behaviour towards my mother after my Nana’s passing.  Both were completely unacceptable.  

They’re getting invites to our wedding, but that’s to please my mother.  Neither are getting a +1 (they’re actually the only people at the wedding not getting a +1.)  I don’t know if either are dating anyone, I know neither are engaged. I seriously doubt that they’ll attend anyways. 

Post # 8
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3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If she’s blocked you on all social media, is it possible that either you post lots of things that she doesn’t want to see or that she posts things that she doesn’t want you to see? 

Post # 11
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3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I think you need to stop judging your relationships based on social media. If you’re wanting a closer relationship with your cousin, I would reach out to her in person.

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