(Closed) My cousin got engaged…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2414 posts
Buzzing bee


I know in my case a year and a half isn’t long, but when you’re almost or over 30 and been in the dating pool for over a decade to 15 years, you tend to know what you want in a partner.

I agree!

Have you and your SO had any conversations at all about a long future together leading to marriage?

If not — I would bring the subject up now. After 1.5 years of dating, it’s entirely within your rights to know where this is going.

Do you want to have children?


Post # 4
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You reacted better than I did. My cousin asked his gf to marry him in May, I believe, after meeting her for the first time in December.

I said nothing but nice things to everyone who asked about it, but inside I was fuming. At that time, my Boyfriend or Best Friend and I hadn’t even discussed rings, marriages etc. (We’d been dating since Sep 2011, so not much more than your cousin and his girl).

I’m over it now (Their wedding is in place of our family thanksgiving, which means we’ll be celebrating as a family which we haven’t been able to do for the past couple of years, so I’m grateful). But I still think they rushed things. But only they know, and if they’re happy, I’m happy for them.

Just remember, if they get married first, you can throw a great wedding after them, and get all your new cousin’s help (if she’s the helpful sort). Otherwise, you get some experience from your aunt & uncle. There will be a benefit to this!

Post # 5
1360 posts
Bumble bee

@LurkerBee:  I began dating Fiance in October of 2011. It’s not about the timeline, it’s about the people.

Definitely have a talk with your SO if you feel like the ball needs to be rolling soon!

Post # 6
646 posts
Busy bee

urg…my 25 yr old cousin just got engaged. im 31…i know howu feel 🙁

Post # 7
1519 posts
Bumble bee

My fiancé and I have been together 4 1/2 months, so I apologize on behalf of those of us who move quickly. I was in a relationship for 2 years where I impatiently waited for an engagement, and watched his brother get married to someone within a year of them meeting, which was hard on me, so I know how you feel. Just try to enjoy your own relationship and you’ll appreciate your own engagement and wedding so much more. People all move at their own paces and have their own reasons for getting married sooner or later. It doesn’t mean your boyfriend loves you less or that you’re not good enough or any negative thing. It just means your circumstances are different. 

Post # 9
699 posts
Busy bee

@LurkerBee:  I’ve been dating my SO for 3.5 years, I’m 34…..enough said lol!!!!!!

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