Post # 1
She posts about it EVERY SINGLE DAY. “5 days to go. 4 days to go. 3 days to go. SO HAPPY.” I don’t want to rain on her happiness, but this hurts, mainly because I wasn’t invited. I get why everyone else says not to post anything because it does cause hurt feelings to people who weren’t invited.
On the RARE occasion I post something, once a month if that, she always makes a comment like “When do I get my invitation? I better be invited” and it drive me nuts. I just want to scream “Where is MY invitation to your wedding in three days that you are so happy about.” I know for a fact her wedding isn’t small (300 people) because she posts about how many people are attending, how much it’s costing her parents, every single little detail, so I don’t get why I wasn’t invited. The rest of my family was, and it wasn’t one if those “it slipped her mind” or “I invited your parents so obviously you are invited too” things, she knows damn well I think/know I’m not invited. I don’t really know where I’m going with this but I really don’t want to invite her to my wedding because she snubbed me from her guest list. I honestly want her to shut up when she posts comments about her being invited to my wedding. Rawr-end rant…
Post # 3
Huh. Next time she asks, “Where’s my invitation?” (which, by the way, is rude in almost any circumstance), I’d just be honest and say “Well, you and I obviously aren’t that close, or you would have invited me to your wedding. Why would you expect to be invited to my wedding when you didn’t invite me to yours?” And see what she has to say about that!
And if the posting you’re talking about is on facebook, hide her! She sounds kind of annoying, anyway.
Post # 4
You’re not insane and I wouldn’t invite her. Also, Bubu got it right, just hide her posts!
Post # 5
Ugh… repetative status updates are the WORST!
“I’m doing INSANITY” “Day two fo INSANITY” “Day three of INSANITY!!” .
You’re making me INSANE! Block her!
Anywho… I agree with BuBu, but I’d phrase it in a slightly less inflammatory way, since she is family after all and you have to deal with her BS until one of you dies first.
“Oh jeez… I’m sorry, I didn’t actually put you two on the guest list since we weren’t at your wedding. I’m so sorry about that, if I have some declines would you like to come?” (and she never needs to know that there were declines)
Post # 6
@MissNoodles:Ha, that is definitely the more diplomatic way of doing it! 🙂
Post # 8
Dude. How obnoxious!! How old is she?!
Post # 8
Naw I’d post what you did. Be straight up and ask her. No need to be passive agressive about it.
Post # 9
She invited your whole family but not you? I find it strange that she is asking for an invitation but you aren’t invited to hers. Did you confirm with her that you were not invited? I find that people who don’t spend time on wedding forums really do not know how to address an invite. My cousin sent an invite to my mom and then told her it was for all of us. (my sister, her boyfriend, my daughter, Mr. Tattoo and myself) The invite was only made out to my mom.
If that’s not the case then yeah, I would be as ballsy as her and ask where your invite is.
Post # 10
@Miss Tattoo: That is what I was thinking too. Are you sure it didn’t get lost in the mail or something?
Post # 11
She’s asking for an invintation and you haven’t been invited to hers? Not only is it rude even if you were invited to hers but it rubs salt in the wound. I would bring it up with her.
Are you sure it wasn’t a mistake?
Post # 12
Yes I asked her two weeks after my mom got her invite jut asking what was up. Her excuse was her venue is small and she couldn’t invite everyone she wanted to and is sorry (but can’t wait to see what I got her). The next day she posted something along the lines of “All 327 invites are out! I can’t believe I’m getting married!”
327 invites doesn’t sound like a small venue to me…
Post # 13
Well then, your response to her asking for an invitation should be: “My venue is small and I can’t invite everyone i want to and I’m sorry (but I can’t wait to see what you got me!)”
Post # 14
I have thought about it, but my mom told her my venue so she knows it holds over 500 people (hers does too). That won’t work…
Post # 15
Wow. I understand the “small venue = not inviting everyone” excuse, but it is the height of rudeness to demand an invitation to your wedding after that. And agreed, 327 invites is NOT a small wedding, for our guest list of 200 we only had to send out 98 invites.