- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
Okay I did not know whether to put this under family, emotional, or etiquette or ask for a whole new category called wtf, but I need a ‘bee vent.
My cousin got engaged a couple months ago and picked yesterday as her date. At first all family was invited. Then just gparents and immediates. Which we were all understanding about and they planned on having a reception in a year after he gets back from duty.Then she told my gma (who is so sweet) she couldn’t come because my jerk gpa (they’ve been divorced ~20 years) wouldn’t go if she went. Then re-invited my gma. They didn’t even have an officiant or place lined up until last minute. Her mom offered them money and set up an appt to look at a hotel they could use at the last minute but it “wasn’t good enough”. BUT they got married yesterday. It was at a bowling alley (owned by her stepdad’s family and generously given the entire place for free on what is one of their busiest nights) and while none of my cousin’s extended family was invited, every single relative of his was. My cousin wore jeans and a white teeshirt (think hanes undershirt style) and her fiance’s phone went off during the vows. My aunt wore a torn up sweatshirt and cooked all of the food (and paid for it). My grandma was pissed!
My cousin and her fiance were being spoiled brats because while we weren’t invited they were sure to let us all know where we were registered and they only registered for expensive things. Her fiance told her they should register for really nice things because our family is loaded (um…we’re very much middle class…like mid-low depending on family). And yet we aren’t good enough to invite to your wedding? My mom and stepdad got them a nice gift from to be from our family (them, my two brothers, me and my fiance) because everything was so freakin’ expensive. No I can’t buy you a freakin’ $800 camera lens and the flippin $1000 camera to go with it.
Now my mom and grandma are just irked beyond belief at my cousin and her husband and at my aunt. As a side, they are planning an intervention for my aunt before my wedding. Who wears sweats to their child’s wedding? I’m by no means having a fancy wedding (think sundresses and kakis), but I would be upset if my aunt showed up in a ripped up, stained up sweat shirt. Is this just beyond rude or what?