Post # 1
Poor post title, but wanted to get a few ideas.
My cousin got married this summer, his wife from Hong Kong wore a drop dead gorgeous Gatsby dress.
I ended up catching the boquet at their wedding and two months later- engaged!
It’s been tough finding any dresses I like, but the style from my cousin’s wedding just blew me away. I’m thinking it’d be ok to check out the desiginer to get a dress that’s similar, but different. (Though to be honest, I’d probably be prefectly content wearing the exact same dress though not sure if she would be..)
But maybe that’s totally rude of me?! I loved her dress so much, and haven’t found that beautiful vintage modern feel elsewhere…
Post # 3
@ansme018: Go for it, it’s not like she is the only one who could or did ever wear that dress I would think she would be flattered you loved her dress so much I would be!
Post # 4
@ansme018: It’s your day and you can do whatever you want. If you really don’t care about people being pissed or thinking you’re “unoriginal” then do what you want.
From my observation on the Bee – methinks some people might be a little judgemental if you were to wear the same dress she did.
Post # 5
It’s just a dress – there is literally nothing wrong with you saying that.
I think the best course of action is just what you said, check out the designer and see their similar items. That way there’s less strife over a dress (even though so many others have worn the same thing I’m sure).
If she gives you grief over using the same designer? (Even the same dress!) Ignore her – you can do whatever you want.
Post # 6
If I saw the same unique gown on 2 brides who are related, I’d just think of the 2nd one as a copycat.
Post # 7
Have you tried on the dress? From what I’ve seen, the same dress can look very different on different women – you might not like it on you. I’d suggest trying it, and others of similar style, of more recent designs. And congratulations on your engagement!! Catching the bouquet worked! 🙂
Post # 8
As a guest I probably woulnd’t even notice unless the dress was VERY distinctive or you had all similar hair and makeup and accessories.
I wouldn’t wear the exact same dress, but taking a cue from her and using a similar design I can’t see raising any eyebrows. Especially since the 1920s style is getting super popular now with the Gatsby movie being out.
Post # 9
also, since it’s your cousin’s wife, there’s probably only a small amount of guests who would have attended their wedding AND will be attending yours… most people wouldn’t even notice. i am sure the weddings are going to be at least a year apart?
i think it’s definitely okay to ask her!
Post # 10
Try not to have the exact same dress, but go for the same style!
Post # 11
@ansme018: i don’t think there is anything wrong with that. i would be flattered personally. some may not share my outlook on that so maybe you could tell her how much you loved her dress and ask her if she would mind if you wore something similar.
Post # 12
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having the same dress. She still will have had it first. And if she asks, you can always say you found it on your own and hadn’t even thought about it being like hers.
Post # 13
I feel like that’s just asking for drama And whispers behind your back. I don’t mean to be mean about it, just, that’s the way that situation has always gone in my circle.
Post # 14
@Helloemi: I have to agree with this. However, I dont see that much wrong with a similar STYLE.
Plenty of designers make those Gatsby sheath type dresses bc it is trendy right now.
I think you can find something!
Post # 15
I wouldn’t worry too much since there’s over a year between the weddings. Unless it’s really specific your cousin’s wife will probably be the only one who’ll notice.
If you’re worried though, how about describing or posting a picture of the dress? We could make suggestions of similar ones.
Post # 16
@gelaine22: I second this. Don’t try to find the same dress, but by all means go for the style if you like it!!!