My cousin's wife wore a beautiful dress. Can I take a cue from her?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

@ansme018:  Go for it, it’s not like she is the only one who could or did ever wear that dress I would think she would be flattered you loved her dress so much I would be!

Post # 4
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ansme018:  It’s your day and you can do whatever you want.   If you really don’t care about people being pissed or thinking you’re “unoriginal” then do what you want.

From my observation on the Bee – methinks some people might be a little judgemental if you were to wear the same dress she did. 

Post # 5
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It’s just a dress – there is literally nothing wrong with you saying that.

I think the best course of action is just what you said, check out the designer and see their similar items. That way there’s less strife over a dress (even though so many others have worn the same thing I’m sure).

If she gives you grief over using the same designer? (Even the same dress!) Ignore her – you can do whatever you want.

Post # 6
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If I saw the same unique gown on 2 brides who are related, I’d just think of the 2nd one as a copycat.

Post # 7
3835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Have you tried on the dress?  From what I’ve seen, the same dress can look very different on different women – you might not like it on you.  I’d suggest trying it, and others of similar style, of more recent designs.  And congratulations on your engagement!! Catching the bouquet worked!  🙂

Post # 8
170 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

As a guest I probably woulnd’t even notice unless the dress was VERY distinctive or you had all similar hair and makeup and accessories.


I wouldn’t wear the exact same dress, but taking a cue from her and using a similar design I can’t see raising any eyebrows. Especially since the 1920s style is getting super popular now with the Gatsby movie being out.

Post # 9
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

also, since it’s your cousin’s wife, there’s probably only a small amount of guests who would have attended their wedding AND will be attending yours… most people wouldn’t even notice. i am sure the weddings are going to be at least a year apart? 

i think it’s definitely okay to ask her! 

Post # 10
3637 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Try not to have the exact same dress, but go for the same style! 

Post # 11
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ansme018:  i don’t think there is anything wrong with that.  i would be flattered personally.  some may not share my outlook on that so maybe you could tell her how much you loved her dress and ask her if she would mind if you wore something similar.

Post # 12
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having the same dress. She still will have had it first. And if she asks, you can always say you found it on your own and hadn’t even thought about it being like hers.

Post # 13
376 posts
Helper bee

I feel like that’s just asking for drama And whispers behind your back. I don’t mean to be mean about it, just, that’s the way that situation has always gone in my circle.

Post # 14
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Helloemi:  I have to agree with this. However, I dont see that much wrong with a similar STYLE.

Plenty of designers make those Gatsby sheath type dresses bc it is trendy right now. 

I think you can find something!

Post # 15
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I wouldn’t worry too much since there’s over a year between the weddings. Unless it’s really specific your cousin’s wife will probably be the only one who’ll notice.

If you’re worried though, how about describing or posting a picture of the dress? We could make suggestions of similar ones. 

Post # 16
376 posts
Helper bee

@gelaine22:  I second this. Don’t try to find the same dress, but by all means go for the style if you like it!!! 

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