Post # 1
I already feel like a jerk for writing this but.. I feel like something needs to be done.
She always had this “just rolled out of bed” look, but for the past 3 days she also has a certain smell. I’m not very sensitive to smells. Not at all really.. but yesterday she reached over me to get something and had to hold back my gagging.
She is a close talker, so finally I got to the bathroom and actually threw up. I NEVER throw up, especially from a smell!
I’ve experienced that smell only once in my life time. I was camping with my girl scout troop and one girl started her period. We had one porta potty to share. The smell from her old pads was unbearable. That’s what this girl smells like, really old dirty pads. 🙁
I know for a fact I’m not the only one who has noticed. I saw another coworker tear up and cover her mouth/nose when the girl walked by. We made eye-contact and I think we both understood what just happened.
What do you do in this case??? I’ve never experienced something like this before!
Post # 3
Sucks! I don’t know what to tell you to do. That is such a touchy subject. I had employee one time and he was the same exact way. To make it even worse, he always wanted to hug you. The punch machine was right next to my office so he would always stop in when he got to work. I didn’t know what to do. Eventually he quit. I hope I’m never in that situation again. I guess let your manager know and hopefully they will know a of approaching them. So sorry you’re having to deal with this.
Post # 4
Anonymous letter. Leave it on the desk.
Post # 5
@Chrysoberyl: I actually had this happen to a male friend of mine who worked in a call centre… The only thing is that HE was the smelly one! He came into the office and there was an unsigned note on his desk telling him (politely) about the issue. I thought that was a good idea, that way you don’t have to have the awkward conversation. OR bring it up with management – they should be the ones to deal with it 🙂
Post # 6
Don’t do an anonymous letter. That would paranoy the heck out of me, wondering who wrote it. It needs to be addressed by a manager.
Post # 7
“Ho Ho Ho, Merry Christmas,” with some deodorant in a stocking and a polite letter from Santa!
Post # 8
I wouldn’t leave a note unless it was worded very very carefully. You could get in trouble for bullying. I say go to the manager or hr
Post # 9
I’d go to the manager. As a manager that’s one of the “not so fun” things they are trained to deal with. Or at least they are PAID to deal with it. It’s a personnel issue bottom line. It’s making the workplace uncomfortable for every one else. If you put a note or deoderant at their desk then YOU might be the one getting in trouble for harassment! Don’t risk it.
Post # 10
@Hyperventilate: There are no desks in the world of retail. Unless you’re selling desks. But that’s different. XD
@itsmle: That’s what I was thinking.
Ugh it’s so uncomfortable. I mean.. I felt like a bitch for thinking, “This person’s smell is a problem.”
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
OH MY god, you poor thing 🙁 I can’t believe it was so bad you threw up! I’m kind of sensitive to smells sometimes too so I don’t blame you. I agree with PP’s, go to management. It’s been done before, they will figure out a very tactful way to politely tell her that something needs to change.
Post # 12
Go to HR. Be polite about it to them, but it’s HR’s job to address issues like this, and they are trained to handle these situations.
Post # 13
If subtle hints haven’t worked, you need to get more technical.
I would at a large resort [in corporate management], and on our cleaning crew we had a lady who was just flat out gross. I’m not trying to be mean, but her feet were BLACK – she showered MAYBE once a month. She was a very LARGE woman [Ladies, I’m plus size.. I wear a size 18, so to be calling someone LARGE means something.. she cannot buy pants in her size – she wears mens 5x sweat pants]. We actually put an “out of order” sign on our employee bathroom when we see her walking up to our building…. there would be the most AWFUL “female odor” behind after she was in there. It actually made us puke. She obviously has many health problems, and to be honest, I’m surprised she’s still walking [and working]. But she smelled HORRIBLE! We had tried almost everything : For her birthday we bought her those nice gift sets with soap/perfumes. Around christmas we got her a gift basket.. it had candies, chocolates..body sprays, mini deoderants, ect. Still, she never used them. I don’t even know if she knows what the products were for. Our customers were constantly complaining. I even talked to her daughter, and asked her to kindly [thinking it would be less embarrassing from her own daughter, instead of a mananger] bathe more often.
None of these worked. We actually had to sit down and have a meeting with her about hygiene. Like in middle school. I felt horrible.. and her smell did improve – but she still smells bad… just not as bad.
Post # 14
I’ll give you my advice based on my own experience. A co-worker (and friend!) of mine at a previous job had a serious issue with smell. It was a smell of B/O and at certain times of the month of period blood. Yes, I know it’s gross, but I’m being honest.
It was really bad in the ladies washroom, people would complain and gag. I knew who it was and after a while people figured it out and would openly complain. I went to our manager (we had the same one) and I honestly don’t know if she was ever spoken to, but after a while it did improve.
I was not comfortable saying something to her, even though we were good friends. It’s such a hard situation, no matter what it’s hurtful. My advice is to go to your manager.
Post # 15
direct this issue to HR. this is their job. if you do not have an HR department, then tell the manager. he/she should be dealing with this, not you.
Post # 16
I’ve actually been in this situation. I used to work with a woman who ALWAYS stunk. Like you couldnt be within 4 feet of her without gagging. My boss was constantly having talks with her about it and it never got any better. Finally she talked to the DM and he talked to HR and she was told thta she needed to take care of herself or she was going to lose her job.