- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have two stories I need to get off my chest. I thought about going Anon but the people I will be talking about don’t really know how to use a computer, let alone find this.
My first story is about my grandfather because it it’s more “light hearted” I guess. Throughout the planning process he has been surprisingly happy. I honestly thought he didn’t like me all that much as my political views differ from his greatly (though I try not to say ANYTHING when he is around). A couple of months ago when the invites we’re going out, he called me on 3 occasions to add people to my guest list whom I have NEVER even met! He assured me that they would likely not come, but all but one group are coming apparently!
Now yesterday my mom texts me saying not to pick up the phone if my Grandfather calls… He was talkin to my dad (when my grandmother was out of the room because she would freak on him if she knew what he was doing) and wanted to invite 10 more people. We are 2 1/2 weeks from the wedding! Not only is it rude to ask me to invite these people I have never met when he is not paying a dime for this wedding (FI and I are on our own) but it is EXTREMELY rude to invite someone with 18 days to go! “Oh hey so and so, we totally didn’t think about you when we made a guest list… I guess we can squeeze you in because it may make your mom come which is who we wanted to come anyway!” Yeah. No!
Now our RSVP deadline was September 13. My dad called his oldest brother on September 18th just to get a verbal confirmation or decline. My uncle didn’t seem to know anything about the invitation I sent him in late July. He finally found the Save the date I sent out but was confused that it did not have any information on it other than the date. My father explained to him when and where it was and my uncle was very nonchalant about maybe some people would be there or not, maybe they had to work, ext. so I didn’t get a number out of him only that he would be there…
Yesterday my uncle calls my dad and tells him that there will be 6 from his side of the family coming. 6? I only knew of 5 from his family. Apparently my cousin HAS to bring her boyfriend that no one knew existed (maybe he doesn’t!). I didn’t invite no-name BF, why would I want him at my wedding? To be perfectly honest I don’t really want that cousin at my wedding. Period.
We all call this girl Crazy K because she is. Not the “hehe that girl is crazy!” Kind, but the “been in the psyciatric hospital several times, bipolar, munchausens…” K started messaging me on FB last night and I could not find a way to weasel my way out of talking to her as I was doing stuff on FB and didn’t want to have to stop just so I wouldn’t have to talk to her. Her newest concoction of lies are: she has had chronic Lyme desease for the past 2 months, she found out she has uterus cancer 2 weeks ago, she has had a brain tumor for the past 2 years that is growing, she thought she had breast cancer (again? I thought she told us she had that 3 years ago and her breasts were fake because of it? Hmm). All of this added onto the “fact” she had 17 heart attacks (3 while driving and it made her flip her car). Oh, she had 2 strokes too!
Not to mention that her mother’s boyfriend “murdered” her mother because she told her father that the BF raped K. In all actuality, her mother ODed in BF’a tub where she lived with his parents. BF called my uncle and told him to come “pick up your dead wife”… Charming I know..
I have to love my cousin, but I’m afraid for her health (mental, not physical because it is all lies). That being said, I am also afraid for my wedding (horrible that I have to think like that, but oh well). I want her to have a good time, but this is not a time for unknown BF to meet the family (and propose like she kind of hinted at!!!) and I also don’t want her clung to me the whole day telling me LIES to try and get a reaction out of me…
Family is family I know, so there isn’t much I can do about it.. But does anyone have any suggestions on how to keep her from being proposed to at my wedding? Or to keep her at a distance? I told her that her and her BF need to make their own special moment, but I don’t know if it will work. I also SPECIFICALLY told her not to wear white (like her mother did at my parents wedding!)
thank you to anyone who made it through all that and sorry if it is confusing… If you have questions, I will try to explain better..