Post # 1
Hello, haven’t posted here in a long time but it is time…
I always used to have 28 to 30 day cycles, then I went on bc for a couple years and came off bc to start ttc/ntnt. We are trying to keep it low pressure, but I am struggling a little to not obsess.
The first month off it took 5 weeks for af to show, and as of today its been another 5 weeks since the start of last af, so I decided to test as I was hoping/ asuming my cycle would be closer to 30 days so today I could be 5 days late, it was negative. If af doesn’t show up in a couple days but I am not pregnant, does it means todays negative was meaningless because I wasn’t actually late?
I guess what I am wondering is, could there still be hope for this month as long as af is still late? I am a little bit worried about when I should cut down on my caffeine and when I should stop drinking (since off bcc I still have an occasional glass of wine, but sometimes have more than one cup of coffee a day)
I don’t know at what stage I should really be expecting symptems to start, but it doesn’t help that I have an irritable body and often get meaningless nausia and sometimes cramps. I have not been stressed, or synch up with any of the other common reasons for late af but I suppose it is most likely just late ovulation due to only being off bcc a few months.
Any ideas or similar experiences?
This topic was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by jenspadiva.
Post # 2
I’m having a similar issue. My cycles have been one gigantic mess since I went off BC (from 18 to 41 days – WTF) and it has been 4 months now. It has been a lot of ups and downs.
My suspicion is that your body also just hasn’t settled down yet and you are unlikely to have a BFP this month, but by all means leave it a few more days and try again. Most woman I know are OK with light drinking and caffeine use until they actually have a positive in hand. TTC can be a looooong and stressful process and you’re unlikely to cause any harm when you are testing regularly. OPKs might help you to nail down your ovulation date if you aren’t using them already. All the best, anyway!
Post # 3
jenspadiva: Still processing my morning coffee so I apologize if I missed something here. I think you’re saying this is your second cycle off BC and your first was 5 weeks long. Unfortunately without knowing when you ovulated it’s really hard to speculate if you’re actually “late” or if your cycles are naturally lengthening off of BC. I would say if your first cycle took 5 weeks, it’s very likely you’re not even technically late right now and that you’re having another long cycle, possibly longer than the first. If you’re reallly wanting to TTC I would say it’s a good idea to try OPKs so you can nail down ovulation… Otherwise just track your cycles and give it a few months before you start to build expectations around AF timing.
Post # 5
I actually forgot to mention why I was sort of expecting it to back to normal, I had actually only been on bc one month previously, the month before that, or maybe even two I was taking a break from bc because my skin was showing signs of irritation near the patch, and those months af came at a similiar time to w/d af. I suppose I was just lucky though! Anyway, only time will tell….
Post # 6
Okay, told myself I would way till day 41, but I tested this evening day 38 out of boredom and of course it was negative but I allowed myself to stare at it and obsess over the evap line, “Was it there all along, was I not looking hard enough?” “Perhaps I should have spent more time looking within the time window and less time getting a snack” perhaps a waste, but I romanticized it into thinking it was a Right of Passage. Where are you af or bfp?
Post # 7
Don’t think anyone is still reading this but just in case…. cycle day 42 and still no af or bfp. Every once in a while I start to get cramps and think af is coming but then they go away. I am no expert but I thought I ovulated about 4 weeks ago (discharge.) Am I right to think the three possible reasons are 1) didn’t’ ovulate when I thought I did, 2) didn’t ovulate at all or 3) I am pregnant but its just not showing up yet? Or does af not always start 2 weeks after ovulation? I can’t find a straight answer on the internet.
I am not charting cause we want to be relaxed about the process but I am wondering at what point should I get a blood test just in case?
Also for anyone living in the uk, if I were to do this should I ask for a nurse appointment straight away or do I need to be referred by a gp?