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I don't see why it is such a problem. So what they have the same name, it's not like you call your dad by his first name anyway most likely.
I agree, that was rude - it really doesn't matter...like MissAsB said, it's not like you call your dad by his first name!
That really is ridiculous!
Let it roll off your back some people are just ignorant and don't realize what they say actually is painful to others.
There is nothing "weird" or "gross" about your FI and Dad having the same name it is just a coincidence.
my aunt married someone with the same name as her dad. it was never a big deal or an issue.
I doubt you call your dad by his first name? I don't see why that's weird. That girl is weird!
That's so rude! Seriously some people need to think before they speak. Do not worry about it, there isn't anything you can do about it so don't let other people make you worry!
That was an insensitive remark, and I wouldn't dwell on it. As others have said, you don't call your dad by his first name, and even if you did, you don't choose who you fall in love with. We actually have a few of these in my family (for example, my uncle married someone with the same name as my mom/his sister) and no one thinks twice about it.
*** I guess I should have added that on a regular day to day basis this NEVER bothers me- for exactly the reason you all mentioned- I don't call my dad by his first name! It was just the supid comment that bothered me.
It is so bizarre to me that this would be an issue to people. How often is a son named after his father and no one makes a thing out of that? Why would it be any more odd for a woman's father and husband to have the same name than it would be for her husband and son to share a name?
Thats just crazy that someone would say that...I wouldn't care if my dad and FI had the same name, that would probably just love him more because of the deep love I have for my father....but she was rude to even say that...
Yeah I agree with "you don't call your dad by his first name". That girl was probably just jealous and was trying to rain on your parade.
So she would pass up the guy that had EVERYTHING she wanted in a man just because he happened to have the same name as her dad--something nobody in the situation could've controlled?... Yeah, BS. It sounds like a jealousy remark. I'm sure relationship karma will bite her in the a$$.
I think a siblings name would be weird because you use it, but my dad's name is dad, or daddy. so his actual first name would be an ok name for a SO.
i think it is weird and gross to refer to a guy not your dad as daddy (ie barny on how i met your mother, saying "daddy's home" to a table of girls at a bar) gross
thats crazy of her! I don't think its a big deal at all! We actually all joke in my family (and extended family) that we all have the same names! My mom and her sister both married men with the same name, and on and on with different relations through our whole family! Plus, you probably call your dad "dad" and not his "name". No biggie!!! what a brat too!
That is really sad that people are that shallow. Don't let her get to you, just ignore her.
I know how you feel. My brother dated a girl for years with the same name as me, spelled the same and all which is rare. We had to call her by her First name middle inital to keep confusion down. Now my brother married a girl with the same name as my FI's bestfriend. Very rare name too and it is confusing. But I'm like you who cares what their names are. I think it is neat to have them both the same name.
I don't see anything wrong with it and that is just silly of her to say that. Now if they looked exactly alike then there would be room for a little wierdage:) Just laugh at the remark and put it in your what do people think be fore they say these things bank:)
wow she does seem a bit shallow. I'm sorry your feelings were hurt. I did see a guy in college who's name was the same as my dad's and I will fullheartedly admit it was a little weird - HOWEVER - at the same time - like everyone has said here it's not like I ever called my father by his name - so if I HAD fallen in love with someone who has the same name as my dad who cares?
now, my husband has the same nickname as one of our best friend's dogs!!!! i laugh every time we're over there and they call for Danny! :P hehe
My cousin just got engaged to a guy with the same name as her dad. We all thought it was cute and were trying to figure out how to differentiate between the two since they are spelled the same too. Just try to laugh off the silliness of this girl, obviously you have something that she is jealous about.
My sister married a man whose first name was the same as our dad's. And her husband's father has the same name too. I don't think it is all that uncommon, nor do I think it's a big deal.
My FI and I have a similar problem, his sister and I have almost the exact same name, but we both shorten it, so one is Gen and the other is Jen. But he always calls me by my full name, because he feels weird. I guess its just a personal thing.
This wouldn't bother me because my dad and both my granddad's have this one name in common ok? not weird...my moms dad has the same first name as my dad..no biggie..then comes along my FI who also has this SAME name as well as his dad to...so guess what my first son's getting named? lol
DH's best friend, Tom, married his cousin. Her dad's name is Tom, too. It's not so weird!!!
Some people just don't have a social filter! Ignore her. It does not matter one bit that your SO has the same name as your dad!
My friend's husband has the same name as her brother. The first time I met her brother it was a bit confusing because I would say 'Nick.....' and they would both answer me at the same time. It was more funny than weird. I just had to learn how to address them directly when they were both sitting together.
The next time anyone says something like this to you, you should take them faux-seriously and say, "You know, you're right. I really can't justify marrying someone with the same name as my father." And then pull out your cell phone and call your fiance/husband to "break up" with him. That'll serve them right.
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So, I realize this is not a problem most of you have but I need a little vent- so hear me out. My dad and FI have the same first name. I don't personally know anyone else with their name. It’s pretty unusual - not like John and John, or Bob and Bob. I certainly didn’t set out to find someone with the same name, but you can’t help who you fall in love with, right? So over the holiday weekend I ran into a girl who I’d sort of fallen out of touch with, and hadn’t seen in forever. After some catching up she said “Your Fiancé’s name is XYZ? Isn’t that your Dad’s name too?” I said yes, and she said “I could never merry a man with the same name as my dad- that would bee too weird and gross”. Um, thanks. Luckily I rarely see this girl. But it got me riled up! This is not the first time people have made comments of this nature- but never so blatantly rude! I mean, do they really think someone should pass up the love of their life because they might share the same name as their dad/brother/uncle whatever!? Yeesh! Thank you for listening to my little rant.