Post # 1
So, I realize this is not a problem most of you have but I need a little vent- so hear me out. My dad and FI have the same first name. I don’t personally know anyone else with their name. It’s pretty unusual – not like John and John, or Bob and Bob. I certainly didn’t set out to find someone with the same name, but you can’t help who you fall in love with, right? So over the holiday weekend I ran into a girl who I’d sort of fallen out of touch with, and hadn’t seen in forever. After some catching up she said “Your Fiancé’s name is XYZ? Isn’t that your Dad’s name too?” I said yes, and she said “I could never merry a man with the same name as my dad- that would bee too weird and gross”. Um, thanks. Luckily I rarely see this girl. But it got me riled up! This is not the first time people have made comments of this nature- but never so blatantly rude! I mean, do they really think someone should pass up the love of their life because they might share the same name as their dad/brother/uncle whatever!? Yeesh! Thank you for listening to my little rant.
Post # 3
I don’t see why it is such a problem. So what they have the same name, it’s not like you call your dad by his first name anyway most likely.
Post # 4
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I agree, that was rude – it really doesn’t matter…like MissAsB said, it’s not like you call your dad by his first name!
Post # 5
That really is ridiculous!
Let it roll off your back some people are just ignorant and don’t realize what they say actually is painful to others.
There is nothing “weird” or “gross” about your FI and Dad having the same name it is just a coincidence.
Post # 6
my aunt married someone with the same name as her dad. it was never a big deal or an issue.
Post # 7
I doubt you call your dad by his first name? I don’t see why that’s weird. That girl is weird!
Post # 8
That’s so rude! Seriously some people need to think before they speak. Do not worry about it, there isn’t anything you can do about it so don’t let other people make you worry!
Post # 9
That was an insensitive remark, and I wouldn’t dwell on it. As others have said, you don’t call your dad by his first name, and even if you did, you don’t choose who you fall in love with. We actually have a few of these in my family (for example, my uncle married someone with the same name as my mom/his sister) and no one thinks twice about it.
Post # 10
*** I guess I should have added that on a regular day to day basis this NEVER bothers me- for exactly the reason you all mentioned- I don’t call my dad by his first name! It was just the supid comment that bothered me.
Post # 11
It is so bizarre to me that this would be an issue to people. How often is a son named after his father and no one makes a thing out of that? Why would it be any more odd for a woman’s father and husband to have the same name than it would be for her husband and son to share a name?
Post # 12
Thats just crazy that someone would say that…I wouldn’t care if my dad and FI had the same name, that would probably just love him more because of the deep love I have for my father….but she was rude to even say that…
Post # 13
The ignorance of others never ceases to suprise me. Sorry she said that.
Post # 14
Yeah I agree with “you don’t call your dad by his first name”. That girl was probably just jealous and was trying to rain on your parade.
Post # 15
So she would pass up the guy that had EVERYTHING she wanted in a man just because he happened to have the same name as her dad–something nobody in the situation could’ve controlled?… Yeah, BS. It sounds like a jealousy remark. I’m sure relationship karma will bite her in the a$$.
Post # 16
I think a siblings name would be weird because you use it, but my dad’s name is dad, or daddy. so his actual first name would be an ok name for a SO.
i think it is weird and gross to refer to a guy not your dad as daddy (ie barny on how i met your mother, saying “daddy’s home” to a table of girls at a bar) gross