Post # 1
So I am 11 weeks pregnant with our second child. We told our parents, siblings and some very close friends but are trying to keep it otherwise quiet. Not only because it’s still early and given my age the risk ofcomplications is higher,, but also because I am job hunting and you never know who knows who. My dad is really really excited. I have told him not to tell people. Two weeks ago I got an email from his friend congratulating me. I asked him again to not say anything and I thought he actually was going to stop. Today I found out he told at least two more people, As I got more congratulations. So i assume many more people know.
I am really upset with him. But the complicated part is that I don’t want to come down too hard. We lost my mom in December so I know this new baby on the way is that much more important to him and it makes him so happy to trll people. I love that he is excited and feel badly about dampening his enthusiasm given what a horrible year we had. He and my mom were an amazing couple, together over 40 years. But i really want him to stop telling people!!!Ugh, I’m not sure I’m asking for advice or just venting!!
Post # 3
Oh, I’m sure his intentions are really just to be happy for you, and can’t contain himself.
Have you explained that you’re concerned about the grapevine and that news of your pregnancy might hamper your job search? He may not fully understand why it’s hush hush at the moment??
Post # 4
If you are 11 weeks with baby #2, its going to be apparent soon enough that another baby is on the way. I would remind him that it is still a secret, but try to go easy on him 🙂
Post # 5
Aww, I do see why this would be frustrating, but I can only imagine how excited he is. Especially because you asked him not to tell anyone and he has.
Post # 6
@SapphireSun: Yes I have fully explained it to him, several times. *sigh* I know he means well but it is just so frustrating! I haven’t even had my 12 week nuchal yet, and I just don’t need this many people to know. If 3 have emailed me I can’t imagine how many others he has told.
@KitKatNYC: it will be to people who know me, but to those I interview with, they would not know. but i will try 🙂
Post # 7
@Sunchick19: So sorry to hear. I suppose he thinks that because you are making judgement calls about who to tell he can do the same. My parents are like that too… Once a parent, always a parent. I hope your job search works out!
Post # 8
@Sunchick19: I would never feel right interviewing without disclosing being pregnant, these people have a right to know before they decide to hire you, how else can they figure out what your plans for after the birth are, it’s unfair to the potential employer.
Post # 9
@seabass – Thanks! But I have been really clear with him regarding who knows and who shouldn’t. He just clearly can’t contain it 🙂
Post # 10
@drummerbride: I don’t think a woman has any kind of obligation to disclose that she’s pregnant during a job search, legal, ethical, or otherwise.
Maternity leave is a relatively minor disruption in the grand scheme of an employee’s tenure. Besides, ANY employee can undergo a major life event that causes him or her to take a leave of absence.
Post # 11
I’m sure he is just super excited! I wouldn’t be surprised if he is trying to keep quiet about it but happens to mention something accidentally to. (ex. he doesn’t just say “oh hey – my daughter is pregnant” but someone is asking him how you are doing and as he’s going through what is happening in your life, he slips up and mentions the pregnancy).