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I tried to post on Thursday about all the problems I'd been having with my grandmother but WB ate it.  No one was calling me to give me details about my dad's health.  I heard from my ex-stepmom that he was in organ failure and then when I called they said he wasn't. I got REALLY pissed and started cursing them saying they should have called me and I don't understand what's going on I want to speak to a nurse. I called the nurse and my grandmother gave instructions that the nurse wasn't to speak to me at all and I was to get all information from her.  If you read above you'd notice this wasn't happening.  My dad died the next day on Christmas Eve.  I am not surprised and knew he was going to die soon, I felt it.  I was always a true daddy's girl and my dad doted on me most of my life and even in death he doted because he knew that Christmas was my favorite day and he told my sister that he didn't want to die on Christmas so we didn't remember that day as a day of sadness. I am so glad that he isn't in pain anymore and he was my guardian angel. I am not sad that he is gone, I will miss his voice like crazy, but I see his face every time I look in the mirror because I truly look just like him. My son looks a lot like him too and I just see my dad everywhere which is awesome.

I have already said my goodbyes and am happy my dad isn't in pain anymore but I have had it with my grandmother and that side of my family.  They tried to control my wedding and couldn't.  Then they decided to control and take something away from me that wasn't theirs to give. I spoke to my daddy the night before he died and told him that they weren't calling me and then I told him jokes and how much I loved him.  We got off the phone laughing with each other. 

My sister and I both are disgusted with them.  They never gave us any information on my dad at all. I live five hours away my sister lives 20 minutes.  She never knew when my dad was home or not home, etc.  I hear that they are waiting for me to come home to take care of the arrangements. After he died I was called by everyone.  I answered the phone and responded "Why the f' are you calling me now" and hung up.  There are no words I can say to them and honestly I am glad I no longer have their last names.

Anyway my dad wouldn't want me to be mad, he'd want me to make light of the situation and make an off color joke so... at least I won't have to buy them Christmas gifts next year :D.  Here is the last picture I have with my dad from my wedding.

Thanks everyone.  His ex-wife was livid and told my grandmother that if he knew everything that was going on he'd be pissed, but I am glad that he doesn't have to deal with any of it and I am quite frankly glad I don't have to deal with them now.  My grandmother is a drama queen and control freak and quite frankly no one controls me.  But anyhoo.. I had to break the news to my son. I told him last week or the week before that that my dad wad dying and that he'd be in heaven soon to take care of us.  My son looked sad and I told him that granddad was in a lot of pain but that he loved him very much. My son also spoke with him the Thursday before and my dad was full of life and energy and my son just told him that he loved him.  My son got the paper jam toy for Christmas and looks just like my dad when he plays. I think I may get my son guitar lessons. My dad started when he was about my son's age and I think it will be an amazing way for him to be close to my dad and for me to be close as well.

@Miss Tattoo: They honestly don't deserve the stamp.  My sister has given them the satisfaction of cursing them out. I haven't even answered the phone when they called. I have nothing to say to them.  Not one word. I am completely at peace.

oddly enough my favorite memory of my dad is one he probably doesn't remember.  He built me a bookcase when I was about 7. I LOVE books and I always wanted one for my stuffed animals and I wanted one that he made for me.  It was huge and tall and grand (way bigger than life lol!!!!) and I loved it.  I remember stacking my stuffed animals in it and my books. I am sure that everyone would be surprised that it is my favorite thing he has ever gotten for me since he bought my first car (a brand new convertible mustang) and pretty much spoiled me beyond belief.

Oh Crebre, I am so sorry girl.  I am go happy for you that he got to watch you walk down the aisle to your DH, I know how much him being there meant to the both of you.  I am sending you all the ((HUGS)) and good thoughts one can.  I will pray for you and your family tonight.  I am sorry about the extended families attitudes, I hope that someday they can find the peace within themselves to understand and regret how they have treated others with such unchristian hearts.

((((((hugs))))))) honey. I'm so so so so so sorry.