Post # 1
He called and said “I got your invitation, and it’s nice, but I have to give blood the month after your wedding, so obviously, I can’t go.” Obviously? Really? Sure, I’m emotional, but there’s no obviously about it.
I’ve been having the feeling he wouldn’t go for months, but I never thought that he wouldn’t change his mind once the invitations went out.
It’s because he and my Mom are divorced and he doesn’t want to see her. But they were married for 17 years, and divorced 7 years ago, so can’t he just get over it by now?
Am really, seriously bummed about this.
Post # 3
giving blood a MONTH later? seriously? i’d be thankful this guy isn’t coming. and i’m so sorry he hurt you like this.
Post # 4
Unfortunately some parents never learn what it means to parent. Your Dad appears to be one of them.
Parenting means growing up and doing what is best for your child. Too many parents just need to be told “Get over it!”. I don’t expect them to be lovey dovey with an ex. I do expect them to be civil in public. A grown up can do that.
I am sorry you are hurting.
Post # 5
I am very sorry. I know this must be so painful. I’m just curious, how does giving blood have anything to do with a wedding? Is he flying? It’s a pretty weak excuse.
Post # 6
thats the worst excuse i’ve ever heard. i’m sorry, you’re better off without him.
Post # 7
giving blood a month after?? That is one lame excuse!
I would call my dad out on it but than follow it by well good you aren’t coming my mom is bring a date or something like that.
I wouldnt be nice!
Post # 8
that is the dumbest excuse I have ever heard. Why can’t some parents just grow up? I am sorry you are going through this. Better to be surrounded by people supporting you than by someone who thinks it is all about them and their problems, even though I know it’s a bit tougher because it’s your dad, but he’s not acting like a very good dad.
Post # 9
I don’t understand how giving blood a month later – or even a day later! – has anything to do with your wedding…
Post # 10
I’m so sorry. FI parents aren’t coming to our wedding (religious reasons) and my sisters won’t be attending either. It’s hard, but I’ve come to terms with it.
Post # 11
@beekiss: It obviously doesn’t have anything to do with it, I’d prefer he just manned up and said “it would be too awkward for me to be around your Mom.” At least that’s honest.
And they’re BOTH re-married, and I invited his wife and my Mom’s husband, so it’s not like he’d be on his own.
He said he’d come visit me in December, but I would be shocked if that actually happened.
Post # 12
I mean… it could be an excuse…. if your wedding was in Africa or a country on the banned list… highly doubt it is…..
Sorry about his immaturity ;-(
Post # 13
That’s awful, I am so sorry to read this. I’ll hope he changes his mind.
Post # 14
@Quietserenity: you should tell him that you’d love for him to visit in December, but you’ll be donating blood in January, so OBVIOUSLY he can’t go.
Oh wait, I have an idea…why doesn’t he NOT donate blood!
My DH’s mom didn’t want to see her ex at the wedding, and it took a lot to finally get her to come. The whole rehearsal she was saying to my mom how upset she was to see him and how uncomfortable she was. My mom told her straight up “Suck it up. For ONE DAY, you can suck it up and be here for your son. It’s not about YOU today.” And she did.
I love my mom. Any chance you would have the gall to say that to your dad?