My dad is really upsetting me…

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

Why don’t you just pay for the cake (i’m under the impression that dad is paying for it so that’s why he’s giving an opinion)

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Do you have a picture of the naked cake inspiration that you could post? I’m just curious, I’ve never seen one. Is it just a cake with no frosting at all?

I’d say let this roll of you, it’s your cake and your wedding, your dad will get over it.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you sent the photo to him, it’s a little unrealistic to expect that he won’t respond with an opinion, or that his opinion will agree with yours.

It’s no surprise to me that someone from a different generation feels that a more traditional wedding cake would be preferable. Your parents probably had similar disagreements with their parents as they were planning their wedding. Most families get past it.

You can’t control his opinion. You can control your reponse. “Thanks Dad  for the input/suggestion, but the decision has already been made.”

If you want to offer a compromise, ask the baker to provide a container of frosting, so the traditional minded can add some.  ( I always think the cupcake places should sell little tubs of frosting on its’ own, as that is the only part of the cupcake I’m interested in eating.)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@chouette:  Really??? Sorry about that! Dad should be supportive! And kudos to you for DOING WHAT YOU WANT AT YOUR WEDDING!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@chouette:  When you show someone something, you HAVE to know that they’re going to have an opinion and some people may give you their opinion or choose to tell people they’re opinion when you’re out of earshot. When you don’t want anyone’s opinion of your choices, take that power away from them. Don’t show them. Don’t discuss it, but I’m sure your dad feels like he can tell his daughter what he’s thinking. He doesn’t like it and would prefer something more traditional. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

what’s a naked cake look like? I’d just pay the 200 out of pocket and leave them out of it!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@chouette: WOW those are really pretty and not at all what I was expecting! I think you made the choice that was right for you and FI and your dad needs to deal with it since it’s not his money.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@chouette:  You know, upon seeing this, I am kind of considering it… and by that I mean getting a naked cake

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

@chouette:  I love naked cakes they look amazing:) if I were you I’d just pay for the cake myself its so not worth the drama. Just tell your dad someone is making it for you.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Um, he’ snot paying for it so why the hell does he get a say? He doesnt. If it was my father I’d tel him to kiss off, but then again I dont like my father…

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Those are pretty. When you first said naked cake, I was like say what? Why not have a lovely decorated cake and scrape the icing off like the rest of us?People expect a big beautiful cake at weddings – they are typically what I look at first when I enter the reception area. Your Dad is probably upset that the cake will not be special enough.  But those are pretty. I agree, just buy the cake yourselves.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@chouette:  I just searched for these on pinterest, and I think if you do the right cake colour/icing combo, it’s a great look!! (http://pinterest.com/pin/8655424256862705/).

Keep in mind you can’t please everyone. My sister got married in 2011 and she still hears to this day from my parents that getting chair covers was a waste of $300. My sister and her husband were paying for the wedding entirely, and were both happy with the chair covers, and at the end of the day that’s all that matters!!

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