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MAJOR VENT!!

So, a lot of you have read my previous post "My dad stole my wedding date!" Honestly, we aren't messed up individuals or belong on Jerry Springer-- I SWEAR!

He is in town for work & he brought his FI so I could meet her. They stopped by my shop today & not only acted as though they did nothing wrong, but they asked me to write "My Hope" for their marriage so I can read it DURING their ceremony.  This was the first time I've ever met her, they stole my wedding date & now I'm supposed to send them my warm mushy sentiments??

They've already asked my 16 year old brother (get this!) to be a RINGBEARER (lol I can barely contain my laughter) and they asked my sister to be an 19 year old flower girl, but they declined & said thats when Recessionista is getting married! He said "Oh she's changing her date!" My grandparents (his parents) have already told him they're attending mine & he's not speaking with them.

lol this is just so awkward & ridiculous. I will end up changing my date. My FI and I are going over options as I write this. My dad will definitely be the last to know that I changed it, if I tell him at all. Grr it's just the principle of it!

I am just going back to my new mantra: Weddings bring out the crazy in everyone!

My FI told me to write something really nasty... I won't even post it on here! When he said it I was like, "Who knew he could come up with something so mean?" lol

Oh I just laugh because his wedding is becoming a 3-ring circus! 16 year old ringbearer, really? I definitely will not write anything... I've washed my hands of this. I feel more terrible for our extended family, but it seems like they're on my side. I never wanted to make someone feel uncomfortable, y'know!

Oh did I mention, he's not even divorced from my mom yet? Yeah... thats why this is so ridiculous. He hasn't signed a single paper seeking a divorce from my mom, the woman he left 9 years ago! This isn't a real marriage, not legally binding anyway. He's really, really got some issues!

to try to cheer you up... call your brother and tell him this is his ringbearer outfit :)

im sure a 16yr old would love it!

 your dad isnt doing much for the encore bride industry i tell ya

LMAO eloping, will you become my new BFF? I just fell off my chair!

I know he isn't! I really don't want to seem like I'm bashing encores b/c I'm not at all. I have nothing but love for everyone here... he and his FI are a special case.

I love WB, it's a crazy story-- but I could never just vent to anyone about it like this! You are all so supportive :) Thanks!

Ughhhhh that is ridiculous. Good for you for rolling with the punches on this though. That really stinks that you are having to change your date, but you're the better person in the end...so keep your chin up!

@marigold: lol... here I was thinking my 19 year old sister was special being asked to be the flower girl? Aww.. I'm sure she'll be super disappointed! lol geez... I would never ever consider asking someone that old to be my "FG".

@futuredrbraun: thanks! what else can I do? If I were like a month away from my wedding- I'd be upset! However, there's so much time & our vendors are so awesome, I have the ability to be able to go with the flow.

@lemilie: I've gone back & forth about changing it. I'm actually just tired of all my family talking about it & taking sides. To me, I feel like its the opposite of what a wedding is supposed to be about. I kind of don't want this to overshadow my actual wedding, like "Oh today is RecessionistaDad's wedding also". Trust me, I've thought deeply about sticking it to him & making sure his wedding day is awful. lol I feel so grown up taking the bigger person route because I don't often do that :P