Post # 1
So, a lot of you have read my previous post “My dad stole my wedding date!” Honestly, we aren’t messed up individuals or belong on Jerry Springer– I SWEAR!
He is in town for work & he brought his FI so I could meet her. They stopped by my shop today & not only acted as though they did nothing wrong, but they asked me to write “My Hope” for their marriage so I can read it DURING their ceremony. This was the first time I’ve ever met her, they stole my wedding date & now I’m supposed to send them my warm mushy sentiments??
They’ve already asked my 16 year old brother (get this!) to be a RINGBEARER (lol I can barely contain my laughter) and they asked my sister to be an 19 year old flower girl, but they declined & said thats when Recessionista is getting married! He said “Oh she’s changing her date!” My grandparents (his parents) have already told him they’re attending mine & he’s not speaking with them.
lol this is just so awkward & ridiculous. I will end up changing my date. My FI and I are going over options as I write this. My dad will definitely be the last to know that I changed it, if I tell him at all. Grr it’s just the principle of it!
I am just going back to my new mantra: Weddings bring out the crazy in everyone!
Post # 3
I am so sorry you are going through this. Hugs.
So are you going to write it? If I were I would decline nicely, only because I don’t really know the bride.
Post # 4
My FI told me to write something really nasty… I won’t even post it on here! When he said it I was like, “Who knew he could come up with something so mean?” lol
Oh I just laugh because his wedding is becoming a 3-ring circus! 16 year old ringbearer, really? I definitely will not write anything… I’ve washed my hands of this. I feel more terrible for our extended family, but it seems like they’re on my side. I never wanted to make someone feel uncomfortable, y’know!
Oh did I mention, he’s not even divorced from my mom yet? Yeah… thats why this is so ridiculous. He hasn’t signed a single paper seeking a divorce from my mom, the woman he left 9 years ago! This isn’t a real marriage, not legally binding anyway. He’s really, really got some issues!
Post # 5
to try to cheer you up… call your brother and tell him this is his ringbearer outfit 🙂
im sure a 16yr old would love it!
your dad isnt doing much for the encore bride industry i tell ya
Post # 6
LMAO eloping, will you become my new BFF? I just fell off my chair!
I know he isn’t! I really don’t want to seem like I’m bashing encores b/c I’m not at all. I have nothing but love for everyone here… he and his FI are a special case.
I love WB, it’s a crazy story– but I could never just vent to anyone about it like this! You are all so supportive 🙂 Thanks!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club
Ughhhhh that is ridiculous. Good for you for rolling with the punches on this though. That really stinks that you are having to change your date, but you’re the better person in the end…so keep your chin up!
Post # 8
Maybe I’m just a bad person, but if all those people already said they were going to mine instead of his, I would just stick with the plans I’d alraedy made and not change my date. I don’t think anyone would make you feel bad about it, they all seem to know and understand the situation. If you do want to change it, I guess that makes you a MUCH better person than me!
Post # 9
Awwww i remember your post about your dad stealing your date! I agree with you that it is the most ridiculous thing that I have ever heard to have a 16 year old ringbearer and 19 year old flower girl! Families are super crazy huh? No matter who you are, it always seems like something like this comes up (you are not alone!!!) You are handling this situation better than anyone I know could…even me! Seriously, you have an amazing attitude about all of this! Keep it up!!!
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
Hahaha… my cousin had a 16 yo flower girl. 😉 It was INSANE. She actually had her buy a large size of a child’s dress. This was not a child size shaped young lady, if you get my drift. (That was after she asked my step-sister, who was 19 at the time, to be the flower girl. She must have really wanted a flower girl, and not had any young children to ask?)
Post # 11
@marigold: lol… here I was thinking my 19 year old sister was special being asked to be the flower girl? Aww.. I’m sure she’ll be super disappointed! lol geez… I would never ever consider asking someone that old to be my “FG”.
@futuredrbraun: thanks! what else can I do? If I were like a month away from my wedding- I’d be upset! However, there’s so much time & our vendors are so awesome, I have the ability to be able to go with the flow.
@lemilie: I’ve gone back & forth about changing it. I’m actually just tired of all my family talking about it & taking sides. To me, I feel like its the opposite of what a wedding is supposed to be about. I kind of don’t want this to overshadow my actual wedding, like “Oh today is RecessionistaDad’s wedding also”. Trust me, I’ve thought deeply about sticking it to him & making sure his wedding day is awful. lol I feel so grown up taking the bigger person route because I don’t often do that 😛
Post # 12
@ eloping – Hilarious!
You really are a saint for trying to keep the peace as you are. I’d definitely be too stubborn for that! Best of luck to you. I really hope you can now move forward with your own wedding day and not have any further drama from your father. Sheesh!!
Post # 13
O my gosh the flower girl and ring bear thing is really funny but i’m so sorry he’s being so selfish. Maybe if you switch do it the week before I’m sure that would help guests come to yours if they can only go to one.
Post # 14
That’s horrible and I’m sorry you have to change your date!
About the older ring bearer/flower girl, I attended a wedding last spring where the flower girl and ringbearer were both older female friends of the couple. They already had a lot of BMs/GMs and wanted to include them somehow. They ened up wearing matching dresses that coordinated with the BMs and it was really cute.